For all of his years in the spotlight at the helm of Apple, Steve Jobs in many ways remains an inscrutable figure — even in his death. Fiercely private, Jobs concealed most specifics about his personal life, from his curious family life to the details of his battle with pancreatic cancer — a disease that ultimately claimed him on Wednesday, at the age of 56.
While the CEO and co-founder of Apple steered most interviews away from the public fascination with his private life, there's plenty we know about Jobs the person, beyond the Mac and the iPhone. If anything, the obscure details of his interior life paint a subtler, more nuanced portrait of how one of the finest technology minds of our time grew into the dynamo that we remember him as today.
1. Early life and childhood
Jobs was born in San Francisco on February 24, 1955. He was adopted shortly after his birth and reared near Mountain View, California by a couple named Clara and Paul Jobs. His adoptive father — a term that Jobs openly objected to — was a machinist for a laser company and his mother worked as an accountant.
Later in life, Jobs discovered the identities of his estranged parents. His birth mother, Joanne Simpson, was a graduate student at the time and later a speech pathologist; his biological father, Abdulfattah John Jandali, was a Syrian Muslim who left the country at age 18 and reportedly now serves as the vice president of a Reno, Nevada casino. While Jobs reconnected with Simpson in later years, he and his biological father remained estranged.
Reed College
2. College dropout
The lead mind behind the most successful company on the planet never graduated from college, in fact, he didn't even get close. After graduating from high school in Cupertino, California — a town now synonymous with 1 Infinite Loop, Apple's headquarters — Jobs enrolled in Reed College in 1972. Jobs stayed at Reed (a liberal arts university in Portland, Oregon) for only one semester, dropping out quickly due to the financial burden the private school's steep tuition placed on his parents.
In his famous 2005 commencement speech to Stanford University, Jobs said of his time at Reed: "It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5 cent deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple."
Breakout for the Atari
3. Fibbed to his Apple co-founder about a job at Atari
Jobs is well known for his innovations in personal computing, mobile tech, and software, but he also helped create one of the best known video games of all-time. In 1975, Jobs was tapped by Atari to work on the Pong-like game Breakout.
He was reportedly offered $750 for his development work, with the possibility of an extra $100 for each chip eliminated from the game's final design. Jobs recruited Steve Wozniak (later one of Apple's other founders) to help him with the challenge. Wozniak managed to whittle the prototype's design down so much that Atari paid out a $5,000 bonus — but Jobs kept the bonus for himself, and paid his unsuspecting friend only $375, according to Wozniak's own autobiography.
4. The wife he leaves behind
Like the rest of his family life, Jobs kept his marriage out of the public eye. Thinking back on his legacy conjures images of him commanding the stage in his trademark black turtleneck and jeans, and those solo moments are his most iconic. But at home in Palo Alto, Jobs was raising a family with his wife, Laurene, an entrepreneur who attended the University of Pennsylvania's prestigious Wharton business school and later received her MBA at Stanford, where she first met her future husband.
For all of his single-minded dedication to the company he built from the ground up, Jobs actually skipped a meeting to take Laurene on their first date: "I was in the parking lot with the key in the car, and I thought to myself, 'If this is my last night on earth, would I rather spend it at a business meeting or with this woman?' I ran across the parking lot, asked her if she'd have dinner with me. She said yes, we walked into town and we've been together ever since."
In 1991, Jobs and Powell were married in the Ahwahnee Hotel at Yosemite National Park, and the marriage was officiated by Kobin Chino, a Zen Buddhist monk.
5. His sister is a famous author
Later in his life, Jobs crossed paths with his biological sister while seeking the identity of his birth parents. His sister, Mona Simpson (born Mona Jandali), is the well-known author of Anywhere But Here — a story about a mother and daughter that was later adapted into a film starring Natalie Portman and Susan Sarandon.
After reuniting, Jobs and Simpson developed a close relationship. Of his sister, he told a New York Times interviewer: "We're family. She's one of my best friends in the world. I call her and talk to her every couple of days.'' Anywhere But Here is dedicated to "my brother Steve."
Joan Baez
6. Celebrity romances
In The Second Coming of Steve Jobs, an unauthorized biography, a friend from Reed reveals that Jobs had a brief fling with folk singer Joan Baez. Baez confirmed the the two were close "briefly," though her romantic connection with Bob Dylan is much better known (Dylan was the Apple icon's favorite musician). The biography also notes that Jobs went out with actress Diane Keaton briefly.
7. His first daughter
When he was 23, Jobs and his high school girlfriend Chris Ann Brennan conceived a daughter, Lisa Brennan Jobs. She was born in 1978, just as Apple began picking up steam in the tech world. He and Brennan never married, and Jobs reportedly denied paternity for some time, going as far as stating that he was sterile in court documents. He went on to father three more children with Laurene Powell. After later mending their relationship, Jobs paid for his first daughter's education at Harvard. She graduated in 2000 and now works as a magazine writer.
8. Alternative lifestyle
In a few interviews, Jobs hinted at his early experience with the psychedelic drug LSD. Of Microsoft founder Bill Gates, Jobs said: "I wish him the best, I really do. I just think he and Microsoft are a bit narrow. He'd be a broader guy if he had dropped acid once or gone off to an ashram when he was younger."
The connection has enough weight that Albert Hofmann, the Swiss scientist who first synthesized (and took) LSD, appealed to Jobs for funding for research about the drug's therapeutic use.
In a book interview, Jobs called his experience with the drug "one of the two or three most important things I have done in my life." As Jobs himself has suggested, LSD may have contributed to the "think different" approach that still puts Apple's designs a head above the competition.
Jobs will forever be a visionary, and his personal life also reflects the forward-thinking, alternative approach that vaulted Apple to success. During a trip to India, Jobs visited a well-known ashram and returned to the U.S. as a Zen Buddhist.
Jobs was also a pescetarian who didn't consume most animal products, and didn't eat meat other than fish. A strong believer in Eastern medicine, he sought to treat his own cancer through alternative approaches and specialized diets before reluctantly seeking his first surgery for a cancerous tumor in 2004.
9. His fortune
As the CEO of the world's most valuable brand, Jobs pulled in a comically low annual salary of just $1. While the gesture isn't unheard of in the corporate world — Google's Larry Page, Sergey Brin, and Eric Schmidt all pocketed the same 100 penny salary annually — Jobs has kept his salary at $1 since 1997, the year he became Apple's lead executive. Of his salary, Jobs joked in 2007: "I get 50 cents a year for showing up, and the other 50 cents is based on my performance."
In early 2011, Jobs owned 5.5 million shares of Apple. After his death, Apple shares were valued at $377.64 — a roughly 43-fold growth in valuation over the last 10 years that shows no signs of slowing down.
He may only have taken in a single dollar per year, but Jobs leaves behind a vast fortune. The largest chunk of that wealth is the roughly $7 billion from the sale of Pixar to Disney in 2006. In 2011, with an estimated net worth of $8.3 billion, he was the 110th richest person in the world, according to Forbes. If Jobs hadn't sold his shares upon leaving Apple in 1985 (before returning to the company in 1996), he would be the world's fifth richest individual.
While there's no word yet on plans for his estate, Jobs leaves behind three children from his marriage to Laurene Jobs (Reed, Erin, and Eve), as well as his first daughter, Lisa Brennan-Jobs.
This article originally appeared on Tecca
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Kesilapan Kerap Muslim Dalam Bulan Ramadhan
Oleh
Zaharuddin Abd Rahman
www.zaharuddin.net
Pada hemat saya, kita bolehlah mengatakan bahawa objektif atau sasaran yang perlu dicapai oleh Muslim di bulan Ramadhan ini kepada dua yang terutama. Iaitu taqwa dan keampunan. Perihal objektif taqwa telah disebut dengan jelas di dalam ayat 183 dari surah al-Baqarah. Manakala objektif ‘mendapatkan keampunan' ternyata dari hadith sohih tentang Sayyidatina Aisyah r.a yang bertanya kepada nabi doa yang perlu dibaca tatkala sedar sedang mendapat lailatul qadar. Maka doa ringkas yang diajar oleh Nabi SAW adalah doa meminta keampunan Allah SWT.
Bagaimanapun, kemampuan untuk mendapatkan kesempurnaan pahala ramadhan kerap kali tergugat akibat kekurangan ilmu dan kekurang perihatinan umat Islam kini. Antara yang saya maksudkan adalah :-
1) Makan dan minum dengan bebas setelah batal puasa dengan sengaja (bukan kerana uzur yang diterima Islam).
Perlu diketahui bahawa sesiapa yang batal puasanya dengan sengaja tanpa uzur seperti mengeluarkan mani secara sengaja, merokok, makan dan minum. Ia dilarang untuk makan dan minum lagi atau melakukan apa jua perkara yang membatalkan puasa yang lain sepanjang hari itu. (Fiqh as-Siyam, Al-Qaradawi, hlm 112).
Ia dikira denda yang pertama baginya selain kewajiban menggantikannya kemudiannya. Keadaan ini disebut di dalam sebuah hadith, Ertinya : "sesungguhnya sesiapa yang telah makan (batal puasa) hendaklah ia berpuasa baki waktu harinya itu" (Riwayat al-Bukhari)
2) Makan sahur di waktu tengah malam kerana malas bangun di akhir malam.
Jelasnya, individu yang melakukan amalan ini terhalang dari mendapat keberkatan dan kelebihan yang ditawarkan oleh Nabi SAW malah bercanggah dengan sunnah baginda. "Sahur" itu sendiri dari sudut bahasanya adalah waktu terakhir di hujung malam. Para Ulama pula menyebut waktunya adalah 1/6 terakhir malam. (Awnul Ma'bud, 6/469). Imam Ibn Hajar menegaskan melewatkan sahur adalah lebih mampu mencapai objektif yang diletakkan oleh Nabi SAW. (Fath al-Bari, 4/138)
3) Bersahur dengan hanya makan & minum sahaja tanpa ibadah lain. Ini satu lagi kesilapan umat Islam kini, waktu tersebut pada hakikatnya adalah antara waktu terbaik untuk beristigfar dan menunaikan solat malam.
Firman Allah ketika memuji orang mukmin ertinya : " dan ketika waktu-waktu bersahur itu mereka meminta ampun dan beristighfar" (Az-Zariyyat : 18)
يا رسول الله , أي الدعاء أسمع ؟ : قال : جوف الليل الأخير ودبر الصلوات المكتوبة
Ertinya : "Ditanya kepada Nabi (oleh seorang sahabat) : Wahai Rasulullah :" Waktu bilakah doa paling didengari (oleh Allah s.w.t) ; jawab Nabi : Pada hujung malam (waktu sahur) dan selepas solat fardhu" ( Riwayat At-Tirmidzi, no 3494 , Tirmidzi & Al-Qaradhawi : Hadis Hasan ; Lihat Al-Muntaqa , 1/477)
4) Tidak menunaikan solat ketika berpuasa.
Ia adalah satu kesilapan yang maha besar. Memang benar, solat bukanlah syarat sah puasa. Tetapi ia adalah rukun Islam yang menjadi tonggak kepada keislaman sesorang. Justeru, ‘ponteng' solat dengan sengaja akan menyebabkan pahala puasa seseorang itu menjadi ‘kurus kering' pastinya.
5) Tidak mengutamakan solat Subuh berjemaah sebagaimana Terawih.
Ini jelas suatu kelompongan yang ada dalam masyarakat tatakala berpuasa. Ramai yang lupa dan tidak mengetahui kelebihan besar semua solat fardhu berbanding solat sunat, teruatamnya solat subuh berjemaah yang disebutkan oleh Nabi SAW bagi orang yang mendirikannya secara berjemaah, maka beroleh pahala menghidupkan seluruh malam.
6) Menunaikan solat terawih di masjid dengan niat inginkan meriah.
Malanglah mereka kerana setiap amalan di kira dengan niat, jika niat utama seseorang itu ( samada lelaki atau wanita) hadir ke masjid adalah untuk meriah dan bukannya atas dasar keimanan dan mengharap ganjaran redha Allah sebagaimana yang ditetapkan oleh Nabi SAW di dalam hadith riwayat al-Bukhari. Maka, "Sesungguhnya sesuatu amalan itu dikira dengan niat". (Riwayat al-Bukhari)
7) Bermalasan dan tidak produktif dalam kerja-kerja di siang hari dengan alasan berpuasa.
Sedangkan, kerja yang kita lakukan di pejabat dengan niat ibadat pastinya menambahkan lagi pahala. Justeru, umat Islam sewajarnya memperaktifkan produktiviti mereka dan bukan mengurangkannya di Ramadhan ini.
8) Memperbanyakkan tidur di siang hari dengan alasan ia adalah ibadat.
Sedangkan Imam As-Sayuti menegaskan bahawa hadith yang menyebut berkenaan tidur orang berpuasa itu ibadat adalah amat lemah. (al-Jami' as-Soghir ; Faidhul Qadir, Al-Munawi, 6/291)
9) Menganggap waktu imsak sebagai ‘lampu merah' bagi sahur.
Ini adalah kerana waktu imsak sebenarnya tidak lain hanyalah ‘lampu amaran oren' yang di cadangkan oleh beberapa ulama demi mengingatkan bahawa waktu sahur sudah hampir tamat. Ia bukanlah waktu tamat untuk makan sahur, tetapi waktu amaran sahaja. Lalu, janganlah ada yang memberi alasan lewat bangun dan sudah masuk imsak lalu tidak dapat berpuasa pada hari itu. Waktu yang disepakti ulama merupakan waktu penamat sahur adalah sejurus masuk fajar sadiq (subuh). (As-Siyam, Dr Md ‘Uqlah, hlm 278)
10) Wanita berterawih beramai-ramai di masjid tanpa menjaga aurat. Ini nyata apabila ramai antara wanita walaupun siap bertelekung ke masjid, malangnya kaki dan aurat mereka kerap terdedah da didedahkan berjalan dan naik tangga masjid di hadapan jemaah lelaki. Tatkala itu, fadhilat mereka solat di rumah adalah lebih tinggi dari mendatangkan fitnah buat lelaki ketika di masjid.
11) Memasuki Ramadhan dalam keadaan harta masih dipenuhi dengan harta haram, samada terlibat dengan pinjaman rumah, kad kredit, insuran, pelaburan dan kereta secara riba.
Ini sudah tentu akan memberi kesan yang amat nyata kepada kualiti ibadah di bulan Ramadhan, kerana status orang terlibat dengan riba adalah sama dengan berperang dengan Allah dan RasulNya, tanpa azam dan usaha untuk mengubahnya dengan segera di bulan 'tanpa Syaitan' ini, bakal menyaksikan potensi besar untuk gagal terus untuk kembali ke pangkal jalan di bulan lain.
Nabi Muhammad menceritakan :-
ذَكَرَ الرَّجُلَ يُطِيلُ السَّفَرَ أَشْعَثَ أَغْبَرَ يَمُدُّ يَدَيْهِ إلى السَّمَاءِ يا رَبِّ يا رَبِّ وَمَطْعَمُهُ حَرَامٌ وَمَشْرَبُهُ حَرَامٌ وَمَلْبَسُهُ حَرَامٌ وَغُذِيَ بِالْحَرَامِ فَأَنَّى يُسْتَجَابُ لِذَلِكَ
Ertinya : menyebut tentang seorang pemuda yang bermusafir dalam perjalanan yang jauh, hal rambutnya kusut masai, mukanya berdebu di mana dia mengangkat tangan ke langit : Wahai Tuhanku...wahai Tuhanku... sedangkan makanannya haram, minumannya haram dan pakaiannya haram..Dan dia dibesarkan dengan memakan makanan haram maka bagaimana Kami mahu mengabulkan doanya. ( Riwayat Muslim, no 1015, 2/703 ; hadis sohih)
Justeru, bagaimana Allah mahu memakbulkan doa orang yang berpuasa sedangkan keretanya haram, rumahnya haram, kad kreditnya haram, insurannya haram, simpanan banknya haram, pendapatannya haram?. Benar, kita perlu bersangka baik dengan Allah, tetapi sangka baik tanpa meloloskan diri dari riba yang haram adalah penipuan kata Imam Hasan Al-Basri.
12) Tidak memperbanyakkan doa tatkala berpuasa dan berbuka.
Ini satu lagi jenis kerugian yang kerap dilakukan oleh umat Islam. Nabi SAW telah menyebut :-
ثلاثة لا ترد دعوتهم , الإمام العادل , والصائم حتى يفطر ودعوة المظلوم
Ertinya : "Tiga golongan yang tidak di tolak doa mereka, pemimpin yang adil, individu berpuasa sehingga berbuka dan doa orang yang di zalimi" ( Riwayat At-Tirmizi, 3595, Hasan menurut Tirmizi. Ahmad Syakir : Sohih )
Selain itu, doa menjadi bertambah maqbul tatkala ingin berbuka berdasarkan hadith.
إن للصائم عند فطره دعوة لا ترد
Ertinya : "Sesungguhnya bagi orang berpuasa itu ketika berbuka (atau hampir berbuka) doa yang tidak akan ditolak" ( Riwayat Ibn Majah, no 1753, Al-Busairi : Sanadnya sohih)
Sekian
Zaharuddin Abd Rahman
Zaharuddin Abd Rahman
www.zaharuddin.net
Pada hemat saya, kita bolehlah mengatakan bahawa objektif atau sasaran yang perlu dicapai oleh Muslim di bulan Ramadhan ini kepada dua yang terutama. Iaitu taqwa dan keampunan. Perihal objektif taqwa telah disebut dengan jelas di dalam ayat 183 dari surah al-Baqarah. Manakala objektif ‘mendapatkan keampunan' ternyata dari hadith sohih tentang Sayyidatina Aisyah r.a yang bertanya kepada nabi doa yang perlu dibaca tatkala sedar sedang mendapat lailatul qadar. Maka doa ringkas yang diajar oleh Nabi SAW adalah doa meminta keampunan Allah SWT.
Bagaimanapun, kemampuan untuk mendapatkan kesempurnaan pahala ramadhan kerap kali tergugat akibat kekurangan ilmu dan kekurang perihatinan umat Islam kini. Antara yang saya maksudkan adalah :-
1) Makan dan minum dengan bebas setelah batal puasa dengan sengaja (bukan kerana uzur yang diterima Islam).
Perlu diketahui bahawa sesiapa yang batal puasanya dengan sengaja tanpa uzur seperti mengeluarkan mani secara sengaja, merokok, makan dan minum. Ia dilarang untuk makan dan minum lagi atau melakukan apa jua perkara yang membatalkan puasa yang lain sepanjang hari itu. (Fiqh as-Siyam, Al-Qaradawi, hlm 112).
Ia dikira denda yang pertama baginya selain kewajiban menggantikannya kemudiannya. Keadaan ini disebut di dalam sebuah hadith, Ertinya : "sesungguhnya sesiapa yang telah makan (batal puasa) hendaklah ia berpuasa baki waktu harinya itu" (Riwayat al-Bukhari)
2) Makan sahur di waktu tengah malam kerana malas bangun di akhir malam.
Jelasnya, individu yang melakukan amalan ini terhalang dari mendapat keberkatan dan kelebihan yang ditawarkan oleh Nabi SAW malah bercanggah dengan sunnah baginda. "Sahur" itu sendiri dari sudut bahasanya adalah waktu terakhir di hujung malam. Para Ulama pula menyebut waktunya adalah 1/6 terakhir malam. (Awnul Ma'bud, 6/469). Imam Ibn Hajar menegaskan melewatkan sahur adalah lebih mampu mencapai objektif yang diletakkan oleh Nabi SAW. (Fath al-Bari, 4/138)
3) Bersahur dengan hanya makan & minum sahaja tanpa ibadah lain. Ini satu lagi kesilapan umat Islam kini, waktu tersebut pada hakikatnya adalah antara waktu terbaik untuk beristigfar dan menunaikan solat malam.
Firman Allah ketika memuji orang mukmin ertinya : " dan ketika waktu-waktu bersahur itu mereka meminta ampun dan beristighfar" (Az-Zariyyat : 18)
يا رسول الله , أي الدعاء أسمع ؟ : قال : جوف الليل الأخير ودبر الصلوات المكتوبة
Ertinya : "Ditanya kepada Nabi (oleh seorang sahabat) : Wahai Rasulullah :" Waktu bilakah doa paling didengari (oleh Allah s.w.t) ; jawab Nabi : Pada hujung malam (waktu sahur) dan selepas solat fardhu" ( Riwayat At-Tirmidzi, no 3494 , Tirmidzi & Al-Qaradhawi : Hadis Hasan ; Lihat Al-Muntaqa , 1/477)
4) Tidak menunaikan solat ketika berpuasa.
Ia adalah satu kesilapan yang maha besar. Memang benar, solat bukanlah syarat sah puasa. Tetapi ia adalah rukun Islam yang menjadi tonggak kepada keislaman sesorang. Justeru, ‘ponteng' solat dengan sengaja akan menyebabkan pahala puasa seseorang itu menjadi ‘kurus kering' pastinya.
5) Tidak mengutamakan solat Subuh berjemaah sebagaimana Terawih.
Ini jelas suatu kelompongan yang ada dalam masyarakat tatakala berpuasa. Ramai yang lupa dan tidak mengetahui kelebihan besar semua solat fardhu berbanding solat sunat, teruatamnya solat subuh berjemaah yang disebutkan oleh Nabi SAW bagi orang yang mendirikannya secara berjemaah, maka beroleh pahala menghidupkan seluruh malam.
6) Menunaikan solat terawih di masjid dengan niat inginkan meriah.
Malanglah mereka kerana setiap amalan di kira dengan niat, jika niat utama seseorang itu ( samada lelaki atau wanita) hadir ke masjid adalah untuk meriah dan bukannya atas dasar keimanan dan mengharap ganjaran redha Allah sebagaimana yang ditetapkan oleh Nabi SAW di dalam hadith riwayat al-Bukhari. Maka, "Sesungguhnya sesuatu amalan itu dikira dengan niat". (Riwayat al-Bukhari)
7) Bermalasan dan tidak produktif dalam kerja-kerja di siang hari dengan alasan berpuasa.
Sedangkan, kerja yang kita lakukan di pejabat dengan niat ibadat pastinya menambahkan lagi pahala. Justeru, umat Islam sewajarnya memperaktifkan produktiviti mereka dan bukan mengurangkannya di Ramadhan ini.
8) Memperbanyakkan tidur di siang hari dengan alasan ia adalah ibadat.
Sedangkan Imam As-Sayuti menegaskan bahawa hadith yang menyebut berkenaan tidur orang berpuasa itu ibadat adalah amat lemah. (al-Jami' as-Soghir ; Faidhul Qadir, Al-Munawi, 6/291)
9) Menganggap waktu imsak sebagai ‘lampu merah' bagi sahur.
Ini adalah kerana waktu imsak sebenarnya tidak lain hanyalah ‘lampu amaran oren' yang di cadangkan oleh beberapa ulama demi mengingatkan bahawa waktu sahur sudah hampir tamat. Ia bukanlah waktu tamat untuk makan sahur, tetapi waktu amaran sahaja. Lalu, janganlah ada yang memberi alasan lewat bangun dan sudah masuk imsak lalu tidak dapat berpuasa pada hari itu. Waktu yang disepakti ulama merupakan waktu penamat sahur adalah sejurus masuk fajar sadiq (subuh). (As-Siyam, Dr Md ‘Uqlah, hlm 278)
10) Wanita berterawih beramai-ramai di masjid tanpa menjaga aurat. Ini nyata apabila ramai antara wanita walaupun siap bertelekung ke masjid, malangnya kaki dan aurat mereka kerap terdedah da didedahkan berjalan dan naik tangga masjid di hadapan jemaah lelaki. Tatkala itu, fadhilat mereka solat di rumah adalah lebih tinggi dari mendatangkan fitnah buat lelaki ketika di masjid.
11) Memasuki Ramadhan dalam keadaan harta masih dipenuhi dengan harta haram, samada terlibat dengan pinjaman rumah, kad kredit, insuran, pelaburan dan kereta secara riba.
Ini sudah tentu akan memberi kesan yang amat nyata kepada kualiti ibadah di bulan Ramadhan, kerana status orang terlibat dengan riba adalah sama dengan berperang dengan Allah dan RasulNya, tanpa azam dan usaha untuk mengubahnya dengan segera di bulan 'tanpa Syaitan' ini, bakal menyaksikan potensi besar untuk gagal terus untuk kembali ke pangkal jalan di bulan lain.
Nabi Muhammad menceritakan :-
ذَكَرَ الرَّجُلَ يُطِيلُ السَّفَرَ أَشْعَثَ أَغْبَرَ يَمُدُّ يَدَيْهِ إلى السَّمَاءِ يا رَبِّ يا رَبِّ وَمَطْعَمُهُ حَرَامٌ وَمَشْرَبُهُ حَرَامٌ وَمَلْبَسُهُ حَرَامٌ وَغُذِيَ بِالْحَرَامِ فَأَنَّى يُسْتَجَابُ لِذَلِكَ
Ertinya : menyebut tentang seorang pemuda yang bermusafir dalam perjalanan yang jauh, hal rambutnya kusut masai, mukanya berdebu di mana dia mengangkat tangan ke langit : Wahai Tuhanku...wahai Tuhanku... sedangkan makanannya haram, minumannya haram dan pakaiannya haram..Dan dia dibesarkan dengan memakan makanan haram maka bagaimana Kami mahu mengabulkan doanya. ( Riwayat Muslim, no 1015, 2/703 ; hadis sohih)
Justeru, bagaimana Allah mahu memakbulkan doa orang yang berpuasa sedangkan keretanya haram, rumahnya haram, kad kreditnya haram, insurannya haram, simpanan banknya haram, pendapatannya haram?. Benar, kita perlu bersangka baik dengan Allah, tetapi sangka baik tanpa meloloskan diri dari riba yang haram adalah penipuan kata Imam Hasan Al-Basri.
12) Tidak memperbanyakkan doa tatkala berpuasa dan berbuka.
Ini satu lagi jenis kerugian yang kerap dilakukan oleh umat Islam. Nabi SAW telah menyebut :-
ثلاثة لا ترد دعوتهم , الإمام العادل , والصائم حتى يفطر ودعوة المظلوم
Ertinya : "Tiga golongan yang tidak di tolak doa mereka, pemimpin yang adil, individu berpuasa sehingga berbuka dan doa orang yang di zalimi" ( Riwayat At-Tirmizi, 3595, Hasan menurut Tirmizi. Ahmad Syakir : Sohih )
Selain itu, doa menjadi bertambah maqbul tatkala ingin berbuka berdasarkan hadith.
إن للصائم عند فطره دعوة لا ترد
Ertinya : "Sesungguhnya bagi orang berpuasa itu ketika berbuka (atau hampir berbuka) doa yang tidak akan ditolak" ( Riwayat Ibn Majah, no 1753, Al-Busairi : Sanadnya sohih)
Sekian
Zaharuddin Abd Rahman
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
How Positivity Opens Doors in Your Career
Curt Rosengren, On Friday 8 April 2011, 3:10 SGT
I write frequently about how what's happening between your ears plays a big role in your career potential. A change in how you view the world--as a place of limits or a place of possibility--literally shrinks or expands the options available to you. And I don't mean that from a metaphysical "manifestation" perspective. I mean it from a common sense, logical perspective.
As humans, we are pattern-seeking creatures. It's what we do. Something happens, and our brain decides what box it fits in. When you see the world through a lens of lack and limit, that sets the pattern your brain is looking to match. So when negative things happen, it reinforces that worldview. And when positive things happen, they are both minimized in importance and truncated by waiting for the other shoe to drop. A perspective of possibility and potential, on the other hand, does the opposite.
All of that has an impact on what you'll be willing to try and how you will interpret whatever results you get. And what you are willing to try by definition defines what you have the potential to achieve.
If you want to craft and refine your outlook, a great place to start is by paying careful attention to the language you use. Is it limiting or expansive? Does it assume the best, or does it assume the worst? Often the language we use is habitual, a knee-jerk response.
Eliminate these four phrases from your career vocabulary, and you'll open doors for your future:
I can't
In a decade of my Passion Catalyst work, I have seen this assessment turn out to be wrong so many times. It might feel real, but often it's not. The reality is often something completely different. On closer examination, "I can't" frequently means things like, "I could, but I don't see all the options yet." Or "I could, but I'm not willing to do the hard work it would require." Or "I could, but not immediately."
They won't
Unless you happen to be a mind reader, steer clear of this one. You don't--and can't--know how other people are going to respond until they do. Need help from someone in your job search? Reach out and ask. You're guaranteed to not get it if you don't (in which case "they won't" is spot on). Want to collaborate with someone on a project? Again, don't assume you know the negative answer.
Even if you're right that "they won't" eight out of ten times, that still opens two doors that would otherwise have remained closed forever. Imagine the cumulative impact of that over the course of your career.
It's not possible
When I hear this, one of the things I often ask is, "Do you know that for certain? Can you prove it?" Often people just default to this without really thinking it through. "It's not possible" often winds up being, "It's possible, but it would take a lot of effort," or, "It's not possible in my current scenario, but if I make these changes it could actually be possible."
A good question to ask if this phrase comes up for you is, "What if I HAD to make it happen? How could I?" Stretch your creative problem-solving.
I have to
People have so many ingrained rules about what they have to do, and often they're little more than unquestioned assumptions installed by other people (parents, teachers, past bosses, etc.). If you find yourself operating according to a set of have-to expectations, ask yourself, "Do I really? Why? What if I didn't?"
Now, of course all of these are going to be accurate on occasion. There will be times when you really can't do something. And there will be times when, yes, you really do have to do something. But there will also be times when these assumptions simply aren't accurate.
If you take yourself off autopilot by questioning your assumptions when these phrases come up, you'll open the door to possibility and potential. And step-by-step, you'll leave that knee-jerk perspective of limits and lack behind.
After years as a professional malcontent, Curt Rosengren discovered the power of passion. As speaker, author, and coach, Rosengren helps people create careers that energize and inspire them. His book, 101 Ways to Get Wild About, and his E-book, The Occupational Adventure Guide, offer people tools for turning dreams into reality.
I write frequently about how what's happening between your ears plays a big role in your career potential. A change in how you view the world--as a place of limits or a place of possibility--literally shrinks or expands the options available to you. And I don't mean that from a metaphysical "manifestation" perspective. I mean it from a common sense, logical perspective.
As humans, we are pattern-seeking creatures. It's what we do. Something happens, and our brain decides what box it fits in. When you see the world through a lens of lack and limit, that sets the pattern your brain is looking to match. So when negative things happen, it reinforces that worldview. And when positive things happen, they are both minimized in importance and truncated by waiting for the other shoe to drop. A perspective of possibility and potential, on the other hand, does the opposite.
All of that has an impact on what you'll be willing to try and how you will interpret whatever results you get. And what you are willing to try by definition defines what you have the potential to achieve.
If you want to craft and refine your outlook, a great place to start is by paying careful attention to the language you use. Is it limiting or expansive? Does it assume the best, or does it assume the worst? Often the language we use is habitual, a knee-jerk response.
Eliminate these four phrases from your career vocabulary, and you'll open doors for your future:
I can't
In a decade of my Passion Catalyst work, I have seen this assessment turn out to be wrong so many times. It might feel real, but often it's not. The reality is often something completely different. On closer examination, "I can't" frequently means things like, "I could, but I don't see all the options yet." Or "I could, but I'm not willing to do the hard work it would require." Or "I could, but not immediately."
They won't
Unless you happen to be a mind reader, steer clear of this one. You don't--and can't--know how other people are going to respond until they do. Need help from someone in your job search? Reach out and ask. You're guaranteed to not get it if you don't (in which case "they won't" is spot on). Want to collaborate with someone on a project? Again, don't assume you know the negative answer.
Even if you're right that "they won't" eight out of ten times, that still opens two doors that would otherwise have remained closed forever. Imagine the cumulative impact of that over the course of your career.
It's not possible
When I hear this, one of the things I often ask is, "Do you know that for certain? Can you prove it?" Often people just default to this without really thinking it through. "It's not possible" often winds up being, "It's possible, but it would take a lot of effort," or, "It's not possible in my current scenario, but if I make these changes it could actually be possible."
A good question to ask if this phrase comes up for you is, "What if I HAD to make it happen? How could I?" Stretch your creative problem-solving.
I have to
People have so many ingrained rules about what they have to do, and often they're little more than unquestioned assumptions installed by other people (parents, teachers, past bosses, etc.). If you find yourself operating according to a set of have-to expectations, ask yourself, "Do I really? Why? What if I didn't?"
Now, of course all of these are going to be accurate on occasion. There will be times when you really can't do something. And there will be times when, yes, you really do have to do something. But there will also be times when these assumptions simply aren't accurate.
If you take yourself off autopilot by questioning your assumptions when these phrases come up, you'll open the door to possibility and potential. And step-by-step, you'll leave that knee-jerk perspective of limits and lack behind.
After years as a professional malcontent, Curt Rosengren discovered the power of passion. As speaker, author, and coach, Rosengren helps people create careers that energize and inspire them. His book, 101 Ways to Get Wild About, and his E-book, The Occupational Adventure Guide, offer people tools for turning dreams into reality.
Monday, April 04, 2011
10 Signs It's Time To Quit Your Job
Chances are if you are lucky enough to have a job, the thought of quitting sounds ridiculous. With the unemployment rate at an all time high, most people are thanking their lucky stars to be employed.
But even in a bad economy some jobs are just not worth it. Are there any telltale signs you should be looking for when trying to decide if you throw in the towel? Here are ten signs to look for to determine if it's time to find a new job:
You Aren't Learning Anything New
Yes, you want to know how to do most of your job. But there are also things you want to be learning; otherwise you are not growing professionally. If you have stopped learning at work, it's time to find a job where you will learn new skills and grow professionally.
You Never Have a Day When You Wake Up Excited To Go To Work
If you wake up every morning Monday through Friday and never feel excited to go to work, that is a problem. It means you aren't enjoying your job and it is diminishing your quality of life. If you wake up every day and dread going to work, it's time to consider quitting your job.
You Spend More Time Surfing the Web Than Doing Your Job
When you are at work, you are supposed to be productive. Otherwise, it's a waste of your time and the company's money. If you are bored and surfing the web most of your work day, you may want to think about looking into job options where you'll get more stimulation and responsibilities.
You Don't Like Most of Your Coworkers
There are always one or two coworkers in the office that most people can't stand. But if you don't like most of your coworkers, chances are your days aren't very enjoyable because you have to work with them day in and day out. If you can't stand most of your coworkers, it's time to think about finding a company whose employees you mesh with better.
You Aren't Making Enough Money to Pay Your Bills
If you are working your butt off and not getting paid enough to pay your bills, you might be overqualified and underpaid for your position. Go find a job that pays what you deserve.
You Spend Time Looking For Other Jobs
If you are spending time looking for other jobs while you are on the clock, it's obvious you want to leave your job. So keep looking for new jobs and as soon as you find a good one, take it and run.
You Haven't Gotten a Raise in the Last Two Years
If you work hard and benefit the company you work for, you deserve to be rewarded for that. If your boss hasn't given you a raise in the last two years, ask for one. If he or she says no, get out now.
Your Boss Sucks
Sometimes bosses suck. But if your boss sucks all the time and takes advantage of your time, it's time to find a new job.
The Company Isn't Doing Well
This sign varies from company to company. You must keep in mind that we are in a recession and if sales are down but the company isn't in jeopardy, this sign may not apply to you. However, if business is down to the point where it looks like the company is going to go under, start looking for a new job NOW!
You are Stressed All the Time
You are supposed to enjoy life, not be stressed out all the time. If you spend most of your days stressed about everything that going on at work, you are not at the right job.
Know any other signs that you should quit your job that weren't listed above?
Ashley Jacobs is the college correspondent for personal finance blog Wise Bread.
But even in a bad economy some jobs are just not worth it. Are there any telltale signs you should be looking for when trying to decide if you throw in the towel? Here are ten signs to look for to determine if it's time to find a new job:
You Aren't Learning Anything New
Yes, you want to know how to do most of your job. But there are also things you want to be learning; otherwise you are not growing professionally. If you have stopped learning at work, it's time to find a job where you will learn new skills and grow professionally.
You Never Have a Day When You Wake Up Excited To Go To Work
If you wake up every morning Monday through Friday and never feel excited to go to work, that is a problem. It means you aren't enjoying your job and it is diminishing your quality of life. If you wake up every day and dread going to work, it's time to consider quitting your job.
You Spend More Time Surfing the Web Than Doing Your Job
When you are at work, you are supposed to be productive. Otherwise, it's a waste of your time and the company's money. If you are bored and surfing the web most of your work day, you may want to think about looking into job options where you'll get more stimulation and responsibilities.
You Don't Like Most of Your Coworkers
There are always one or two coworkers in the office that most people can't stand. But if you don't like most of your coworkers, chances are your days aren't very enjoyable because you have to work with them day in and day out. If you can't stand most of your coworkers, it's time to think about finding a company whose employees you mesh with better.
You Aren't Making Enough Money to Pay Your Bills
If you are working your butt off and not getting paid enough to pay your bills, you might be overqualified and underpaid for your position. Go find a job that pays what you deserve.
You Spend Time Looking For Other Jobs
If you are spending time looking for other jobs while you are on the clock, it's obvious you want to leave your job. So keep looking for new jobs and as soon as you find a good one, take it and run.
You Haven't Gotten a Raise in the Last Two Years
If you work hard and benefit the company you work for, you deserve to be rewarded for that. If your boss hasn't given you a raise in the last two years, ask for one. If he or she says no, get out now.
Your Boss Sucks
Sometimes bosses suck. But if your boss sucks all the time and takes advantage of your time, it's time to find a new job.
The Company Isn't Doing Well
This sign varies from company to company. You must keep in mind that we are in a recession and if sales are down but the company isn't in jeopardy, this sign may not apply to you. However, if business is down to the point where it looks like the company is going to go under, start looking for a new job NOW!
You are Stressed All the Time
You are supposed to enjoy life, not be stressed out all the time. If you spend most of your days stressed about everything that going on at work, you are not at the right job.
Know any other signs that you should quit your job that weren't listed above?
Ashley Jacobs is the college correspondent for personal finance blog Wise Bread.
Tuesday, March 01, 2011
Most Annoying Coworkers
Quite sometimes I didn't update this blog. For a start, I want to share this quote "In life, when you encounter mean and hurtful people, treat them like sandpaper. No matter how rough they may scrub you, you end up polished and smooth... :)".. well said..
So many things happened but no matter how bad it is.. life has to go on..
Just want to share this article with you all..
by Maui R. Drilon for Yahoo! Singapore
Co-workers are kind of like lovers-you can't live with them, but you can't live without them. They might be, in your eyes, unique-no other office could possibly have a brown-noser as bad as Walter, or an office gossip as horrible as that girl from Finance. Here's some news: EVERY office has them, and they only change in shape, size, and gender.
See which of these people clock in 8 hours with you everyday.
The Whiner
Absolutely NOTHING goes well for this person. If she gets a raise, it's too low. If she's given more vacation leaves, she stresses that she could use more. If given a promotion, she'll spend the next week drowning herself in cocktails, lamenting over all the extra responsibilities she suddenly has. The Whiner also doesn't care whether or not you want to hear about her stoooopid client meeting.
The Oxygen Sucker
Think of it this way: if your office were made up of 21 people, and your company were in a spaceship and you had oxygen good enough for only 20, you would not have second thoughts about kicking him off the ship. What makes him such an oxygen sucker? First off, despite him being in the company years before you, he still really sucks at his job. That, or he doesn't really do his job. Most of his time is spent watching episodes of RuPaul's "Drag Race" on Youtube, and updating his status message on Facebook ("Bench-pressed twice my weight at the gym!"). Seriously, this guy gets paid?
The Floater
If the aforementioned space ship's oxygen tank runs even lower, this is the next guy you'll chuck out the door. Like the Oxygen Sucker, The Floater pretty much gets paid to do-wait, what does he really do?! You see The Floater chatting with co-workers by the water cooler, mixing himself some coffee in the pantry, and he's always present at every meeting. But no one really knows what he's meant to do, what his position is, and why on earth he's still employed in your company!
The Brown-Noser
No one likes a brown-noser...unless it's your ass being kissed. Brown Nosers can be found on both the bottom and the top of the company ladder (how else did they get up there in the first place?)...but nothing sucks more than the Brown Nosers at the top. Bottom feeders can easily be bullied or called out on.
The Procrastinator
She may have been the world's best procrastinator in college who always managed to submit her term papers on time. But when your ass is on the line, last-minute cramming just won't do. Nothing sucks more than having to clock in overtime hours for the nth time this week because she didn't do her part of the job. Makes you wonder if she could pass off as an Oxygen Sucker as well...
The Geriatric
He's seen it all, he knows it all. Of course he does-he was probably working in the company even before you were conceived. Even though half the company complains about how The Geriatric is so not up to date with today's methods and techniques ("I need some more Snowpake,") he's kept around because of that dreaded word: tenure. You're convinced he gets paid ten times your salary to be a living relic of your company.
All Talk, No Action
Putting the word "politics" in "office politics", the All Talk, No Action (let's call him ATNA) guy loves to talk about things like "the future", but never really delivers. Expect a lot of words such as "moving forward", "profits", and "company morale" when this guy opens his mouth. But really, he just likes the sound of his own voice. The ATNA loves to call meetings that don't amount to anything, therefore wasting everyone's time. It's like having to watch the movie "Gigli" every week, only you're paid to do so, so you can't really complain.
The Office Gossip
She's not really that annoying, unless the story she's spinning is about you. What sucks about the Office Gossip is you don't know just how buddy-buddy you should get with her. Be aloof and you won't be in the loop with the latest goss...get too close, and she'd know all your dirty little secrets (which make for perfect blackmail material).
So many things happened but no matter how bad it is.. life has to go on..
Just want to share this article with you all..
by Maui R. Drilon for Yahoo! Singapore
Co-workers are kind of like lovers-you can't live with them, but you can't live without them. They might be, in your eyes, unique-no other office could possibly have a brown-noser as bad as Walter, or an office gossip as horrible as that girl from Finance. Here's some news: EVERY office has them, and they only change in shape, size, and gender.
See which of these people clock in 8 hours with you everyday.
The Whiner
Absolutely NOTHING goes well for this person. If she gets a raise, it's too low. If she's given more vacation leaves, she stresses that she could use more. If given a promotion, she'll spend the next week drowning herself in cocktails, lamenting over all the extra responsibilities she suddenly has. The Whiner also doesn't care whether or not you want to hear about her stoooopid client meeting.
The Oxygen Sucker
Think of it this way: if your office were made up of 21 people, and your company were in a spaceship and you had oxygen good enough for only 20, you would not have second thoughts about kicking him off the ship. What makes him such an oxygen sucker? First off, despite him being in the company years before you, he still really sucks at his job. That, or he doesn't really do his job. Most of his time is spent watching episodes of RuPaul's "Drag Race" on Youtube, and updating his status message on Facebook ("Bench-pressed twice my weight at the gym!"). Seriously, this guy gets paid?
The Floater
If the aforementioned space ship's oxygen tank runs even lower, this is the next guy you'll chuck out the door. Like the Oxygen Sucker, The Floater pretty much gets paid to do-wait, what does he really do?! You see The Floater chatting with co-workers by the water cooler, mixing himself some coffee in the pantry, and he's always present at every meeting. But no one really knows what he's meant to do, what his position is, and why on earth he's still employed in your company!
The Brown-Noser
No one likes a brown-noser...unless it's your ass being kissed. Brown Nosers can be found on both the bottom and the top of the company ladder (how else did they get up there in the first place?)...but nothing sucks more than the Brown Nosers at the top. Bottom feeders can easily be bullied or called out on.
The Procrastinator
She may have been the world's best procrastinator in college who always managed to submit her term papers on time. But when your ass is on the line, last-minute cramming just won't do. Nothing sucks more than having to clock in overtime hours for the nth time this week because she didn't do her part of the job. Makes you wonder if she could pass off as an Oxygen Sucker as well...
The Geriatric
He's seen it all, he knows it all. Of course he does-he was probably working in the company even before you were conceived. Even though half the company complains about how The Geriatric is so not up to date with today's methods and techniques ("I need some more Snowpake,") he's kept around because of that dreaded word: tenure. You're convinced he gets paid ten times your salary to be a living relic of your company.
All Talk, No Action
Putting the word "politics" in "office politics", the All Talk, No Action (let's call him ATNA) guy loves to talk about things like "the future", but never really delivers. Expect a lot of words such as "moving forward", "profits", and "company morale" when this guy opens his mouth. But really, he just likes the sound of his own voice. The ATNA loves to call meetings that don't amount to anything, therefore wasting everyone's time. It's like having to watch the movie "Gigli" every week, only you're paid to do so, so you can't really complain.
The Office Gossip
She's not really that annoying, unless the story she's spinning is about you. What sucks about the Office Gossip is you don't know just how buddy-buddy you should get with her. Be aloof and you won't be in the loop with the latest goss...get too close, and she'd know all your dirty little secrets (which make for perfect blackmail material).
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Malaysia intends no harm to Singapore: Dr M
and.. this will never end.. ooohh boy..
Malaysia has never harboured intentions of attacking or harming Singapore, former premier Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad said in his blog last Thursday.
But the outspoken former leader warned that the Republic’s constant drumbeat about unfriendly neighbours will give rise to tensions and spark an arms race.
His comments — picked up by the media — were made in a lengthy and sometimes acerbic post on his popular blog, Che Det. He was responding to assertions by Singapore’s Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew in the book Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going, which was published last month.
In the post, attacking what he viewed as the central premise of the book, the 85-year-old said, “Without saying so in so many words, Lee Kuan Yew believes that the island’s neighbours would war against it if it has no military capacity to defend itself.”
But he added, “Even in my time, there was no such intention… I don’t think my successors harbour any intention to do harm to Singapore. These are the hard truths. Competition in trade and shipping does not mean war, or a threat of war.
“But one thing is certain: If Singapore treats Malaysia and Indonesia as its enemies, then you must expect them to prepare for their defence,” he said.
Dr Mahathir said that even if it may not lead to war, there will be tension and the possibility of an arms race. This he said will eventually lead to much money being wasted.
“It would be far better if Mr Lee stops thinking about being vulnerable and that its neighbours harbour the intention to invade it.’
In substantiating his claims of the country’s peaceful intentions, Dr Mahathir also said it was Malaysia which suggested that competing claims over Pedra Branca be submitted to the International Court of Justice (ICJ).
“Malaysia’s willingness to go to the international court is hardly in keeping with a country which harbours the intention to invade Singapore,” he said.
“As with Pulau Batu Puteh, Sipadan and Ligitan, our preference is for negotiation, arbitration or an international court’s decision.”
Pulau Batu Puteh is the Malay name for Pedra Branca. Sipadan and Ligitan are the two islands off Sabah that Malaysia won after its dispute with Indonesia went to the ICJ.
On the issue of sand, Dr Mahathir noted that in the book, Mr Lee had quoted him as saying, “Even at their (Singapore’s) present size, they are trouble, you let them grow some more, they will be more trouble”.
“I may have said that, I cannot remember. But is that an indication that we intend to invade Singapore?” he asked.
He explained that the supply of sand to the Republic was stopped because it was causing erosion along parts of the Malaysian coast. Allowing the supply to continue, he argued, would cause the erosion to worsen as well as destroy fish-breeding grounds, thus affecting the livelihoods of Malaysian fishermen.
Portraying Singapore as a troublemaker, Dr Mahathir said he tried to solve several problems between the two countries while he was prime minister, such as the railway land issue and the price of water, but they came to nought.
Turning to other statements made by Mr Lee in the book, he took a swipe at politics in Singapore by charting the contrasting fortunes of two political parties since the Republic’s separation from Malaysia.
He said when both sides separated in 1965, supporters of the People’s Action Party (PAP) formed the Malaysian opposition Democratic Action Party (DAP), “which is alive and well today in Malaysia”.
“But the rump Umno left in Singapore could not survive in the hostile atmosphere. For that matter, no other political party has been allowed to function properly in Singapore,” he added.
“Kuan Yew claims all these opposition people are duds and must not be allowed to rule Singapore or even to be in the opposition,” he said.
This “frank admission that he determines who should represent the people of Singapore”, Dr Mahathir said, is incontrovertible proof that Singapore is a totalitarian state.
Malaysia has never harboured intentions of attacking or harming Singapore, former premier Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad said in his blog last Thursday.
But the outspoken former leader warned that the Republic’s constant drumbeat about unfriendly neighbours will give rise to tensions and spark an arms race.
His comments — picked up by the media — were made in a lengthy and sometimes acerbic post on his popular blog, Che Det. He was responding to assertions by Singapore’s Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew in the book Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going, which was published last month.
In the post, attacking what he viewed as the central premise of the book, the 85-year-old said, “Without saying so in so many words, Lee Kuan Yew believes that the island’s neighbours would war against it if it has no military capacity to defend itself.”
But he added, “Even in my time, there was no such intention… I don’t think my successors harbour any intention to do harm to Singapore. These are the hard truths. Competition in trade and shipping does not mean war, or a threat of war.
“But one thing is certain: If Singapore treats Malaysia and Indonesia as its enemies, then you must expect them to prepare for their defence,” he said.
Dr Mahathir said that even if it may not lead to war, there will be tension and the possibility of an arms race. This he said will eventually lead to much money being wasted.
“It would be far better if Mr Lee stops thinking about being vulnerable and that its neighbours harbour the intention to invade it.’
In substantiating his claims of the country’s peaceful intentions, Dr Mahathir also said it was Malaysia which suggested that competing claims over Pedra Branca be submitted to the International Court of Justice (ICJ).
“Malaysia’s willingness to go to the international court is hardly in keeping with a country which harbours the intention to invade Singapore,” he said.
“As with Pulau Batu Puteh, Sipadan and Ligitan, our preference is for negotiation, arbitration or an international court’s decision.”
Pulau Batu Puteh is the Malay name for Pedra Branca. Sipadan and Ligitan are the two islands off Sabah that Malaysia won after its dispute with Indonesia went to the ICJ.
On the issue of sand, Dr Mahathir noted that in the book, Mr Lee had quoted him as saying, “Even at their (Singapore’s) present size, they are trouble, you let them grow some more, they will be more trouble”.
“I may have said that, I cannot remember. But is that an indication that we intend to invade Singapore?” he asked.
He explained that the supply of sand to the Republic was stopped because it was causing erosion along parts of the Malaysian coast. Allowing the supply to continue, he argued, would cause the erosion to worsen as well as destroy fish-breeding grounds, thus affecting the livelihoods of Malaysian fishermen.
Portraying Singapore as a troublemaker, Dr Mahathir said he tried to solve several problems between the two countries while he was prime minister, such as the railway land issue and the price of water, but they came to nought.
Turning to other statements made by Mr Lee in the book, he took a swipe at politics in Singapore by charting the contrasting fortunes of two political parties since the Republic’s separation from Malaysia.
He said when both sides separated in 1965, supporters of the People’s Action Party (PAP) formed the Malaysian opposition Democratic Action Party (DAP), “which is alive and well today in Malaysia”.
“But the rump Umno left in Singapore could not survive in the hostile atmosphere. For that matter, no other political party has been allowed to function properly in Singapore,” he added.
“Kuan Yew claims all these opposition people are duds and must not be allowed to rule Singapore or even to be in the opposition,” he said.
This “frank admission that he determines who should represent the people of Singapore”, Dr Mahathir said, is incontrovertible proof that Singapore is a totalitarian state.
Wednesday, February 09, 2011
Dr Mahathir: Lee Kuan Yew is just a ‘mayor’
Tak abis2 cerita pasal dua mantan Perdana Menteri nie.. well.. i loikee.. hehehehe.. Good to see both old men digging dirt out and throwing at each other. Let the truth be told… hehehehe..
Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad dismissed in a recent book Lee Kuan Yew’s achievements as the founding father of Singapore, and accused the island republic’s minister mentor of once wanting to be prime minister of Malaysia.
“The fact remains that he is the mayor of Singapore,” the former Malaysian prime minister was quoted as saying in “Doctor M: Operation Malaysia — Conversations with Mahathir Mohamad”, written by US journalist Tom Plate based on interviews with Dr Mahathir over the last two years.
“This is something he doesn’t like. He wants to be big, you see and he feels that we took away his opportunity to lead a real country.”
Dr Mahathir also described Lee as “a big frog in a small pond” whose ambitions of being prime minister of Malaysia resulted in Tunku Abdul Rahman, Malaysia’s first prime minister, “realising he had to move Kuan Yew out.”
Singapore had joined Malaya, Sabah and Sarawak to form the Federation of Malaysia in 1963 when Tunku was still prime minister.
Parliament voted to expel Singapore in 1965 following conflict over pro-Bumiputera policies favoured by Umno but rejected by Lee’s People’s Action Party (PAP).
Although their terms as prime minister only overlapped for nine years, Dr Mahathir and Lee have been at loggerheads for as long as Malaysia and Singapore have existed.
“People look at him as an intellectual, as something more than just an ordinary politician, so he is always invited to give his views on things, and to that extent he is something bigger than Singapore,” Dr Mahathir, who was prime minister from 1981 to 2003, added in the latest book.
In the book, he also recounted an event that sealed poor relations between the two, stating that he was annoyed that he “was not treated as the leader of a country” when he visited Singapore as prime minister.
“Normally when somebody, a prime minister, visits another prime minister, you go down and receive him… they sent me a protocol officer, and then I was put in a room, a holding room waiting for the big man,” he said.
Dr Mahathir then did the same to Lee, who stepped down as PM in 1990, and other Singaporean leaders when they visited Malaysia.
“I call this the Singapore protocol,” he said.
In the book, Dr Mahathir said Lee was “not democratic at all” as opposition MPs in Singapore were “incapacitated, either by suing them… or the opposition will come in and be very quiet.”
He contrasted this to Malaysia where the opposition is “very vocal” and had at one time ruled five of the 13 states.
Lee, in a recent biography called “Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going”, had said that after resigning as prime minister, his intention was to make sure the new PM succeeded, comparing himself favourably to Dr Mahathir.
“If the new PM fails, I have failed. Mahathir never thought that way. He undermined his successors,” he said, referring to the pressure applied by Dr Mahathir on Tun Abdullah Ahmad Badawi, who eventually stepped down in 2009, and attempts to influence the current administration of Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak.
Dr Mahathir also claimed that when Lee was a Malaysian MP, he tended “to lecture people. The people in Parliament dislike that. So, I made it uncomfortable for him, so he didn’t like me.”
However, Lee also stated his own version of events in “Hard Truths” where he said Dr Mahathir “knew he couldn’t put me down because we had clashed before in the Malaysian Parliament where I was not intimidated.”
Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad dismissed in a recent book Lee Kuan Yew’s achievements as the founding father of Singapore, and accused the island republic’s minister mentor of once wanting to be prime minister of Malaysia.
“The fact remains that he is the mayor of Singapore,” the former Malaysian prime minister was quoted as saying in “Doctor M: Operation Malaysia — Conversations with Mahathir Mohamad”, written by US journalist Tom Plate based on interviews with Dr Mahathir over the last two years.
“This is something he doesn’t like. He wants to be big, you see and he feels that we took away his opportunity to lead a real country.”
Dr Mahathir also described Lee as “a big frog in a small pond” whose ambitions of being prime minister of Malaysia resulted in Tunku Abdul Rahman, Malaysia’s first prime minister, “realising he had to move Kuan Yew out.”
Singapore had joined Malaya, Sabah and Sarawak to form the Federation of Malaysia in 1963 when Tunku was still prime minister.
Parliament voted to expel Singapore in 1965 following conflict over pro-Bumiputera policies favoured by Umno but rejected by Lee’s People’s Action Party (PAP).
Although their terms as prime minister only overlapped for nine years, Dr Mahathir and Lee have been at loggerheads for as long as Malaysia and Singapore have existed.
“People look at him as an intellectual, as something more than just an ordinary politician, so he is always invited to give his views on things, and to that extent he is something bigger than Singapore,” Dr Mahathir, who was prime minister from 1981 to 2003, added in the latest book.
In the book, he also recounted an event that sealed poor relations between the two, stating that he was annoyed that he “was not treated as the leader of a country” when he visited Singapore as prime minister.
“Normally when somebody, a prime minister, visits another prime minister, you go down and receive him… they sent me a protocol officer, and then I was put in a room, a holding room waiting for the big man,” he said.
Dr Mahathir then did the same to Lee, who stepped down as PM in 1990, and other Singaporean leaders when they visited Malaysia.
“I call this the Singapore protocol,” he said.
In the book, Dr Mahathir said Lee was “not democratic at all” as opposition MPs in Singapore were “incapacitated, either by suing them… or the opposition will come in and be very quiet.”
He contrasted this to Malaysia where the opposition is “very vocal” and had at one time ruled five of the 13 states.
Lee, in a recent biography called “Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going”, had said that after resigning as prime minister, his intention was to make sure the new PM succeeded, comparing himself favourably to Dr Mahathir.
“If the new PM fails, I have failed. Mahathir never thought that way. He undermined his successors,” he said, referring to the pressure applied by Dr Mahathir on Tun Abdullah Ahmad Badawi, who eventually stepped down in 2009, and attempts to influence the current administration of Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak.
Dr Mahathir also claimed that when Lee was a Malaysian MP, he tended “to lecture people. The people in Parliament dislike that. So, I made it uncomfortable for him, so he didn’t like me.”
However, Lee also stated his own version of events in “Hard Truths” where he said Dr Mahathir “knew he couldn’t put me down because we had clashed before in the Malaysian Parliament where I was not intimidated.”
Wednesday, February 02, 2011
Feedback from MM Lee's comments
I'm proud to see a young Singaporean Malay speak up and give feedback on what MM Lee's commented on the Muslim. He's a Fit To Post (FTP) yahoo writer and used his colum for the feedback. Bravo bro..
COMMENT
By Faris Mokhtar
Uncalled for, unfair and out of touch.
That’s how I would describe Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew’s controversial comments on the racial integration of the Malay-Muslim community in Singapore.
The 87-year-old founding father of modern Singapore had written in his latest book, Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going, “I would say today, we can integrate all religions and races except Islam. I think the Muslims socially do not cause any trouble, but they are distinct and separate.”
He added, “Now, you go to schools with Malay and Chinese, there’s a halal and non-halal segment and so, too, the universities. And they tend to sit separately so as not to be contaminated. All that becomes a social divide.”
When asked what Muslims could do to integrate, he said, “Be less strict on Islamic observances and say, ‘Okay, I’ll eat with you’.”
What followed, understandably so was outrage among Malay-Muslim organisations such as PERDAUS and Jamiyah. Soon after, the government was in frantic “damage control” mode.
First, Minister-in-Charge of Muslim Affairs Dr Yaacob Ibrahim and then, Prime Minister Lee were quick to distance themselves, and the government, from MM Lee’s frank “hard truth”.
Well I, for one, respectfully beg to differ from MM Lee. As a young Malay-Muslim born in the late 80s, I think his points are inaccurate and out of touch.
Public or government schools have and will continue to have halal and non-halal stalls. This is to ensure that the food meet the religious dietary requirements of Muslims students such as how vegetarian stalls mainly cater to students who are practicing Buddhists or Hindus.
But there is no such thing as segregated seating areas for both Muslim and non-Muslim students. Students buy their own food and sit wherever they choose.
Even in army camps, where the cookhouse is still separated into the “halal” and “non-halal” sections, nowhere is it said that Muslims are not able to have meals with the Chinese, or vice versa.
There is nothing in the Koran that forbids Muslims from sharing spaces with non-Muslims. In fact, they are encouraged to integrate with the society and such actions do not make one “unMuslim-like” in nature.
And it goes beyond just food. We, the young, are simply different in our ways and thinking.
I still enjoy the company of my friends — Chinese, Indian, Eurasians and Malays — in secondary schools and college. We still catch up regularly for movies, shopping and visit each other houses for casual get-togethers and parties.
When it comes to food, I order my ”halal” food and sit down and have my meal with them side-by-side. If we attend birthdays or house parties organised by non-Malay friends, I and my fellow Muslims will opt for soft drinks while the rest chooses alcoholic beverages.
The point is that, we do socialise and go for gatherings – who says we can’t? And those of my generation agree with me.
“I think his views are myopic and do not paint an accurate picture,” said 22-year old Faizal Shaharuddin, an undergraduate from NUS.
“When we serve national service in the army, you can see that everyone integrate well together. We sit and eat meals together and take good care of one another, regardless of race and religion.”
In fact, even some of my Muslim friends are even dating girls from other races. For instance, a close friend who is studying to be a teacher in NTU-NIE, has been dating a girl of Chinese-Philippine heritage for over a year.
I recognise that MM Lee’s views, and those of his generation, are shaped by their struggle for independence in post-war Malaya and the bitter separation from Malaysia. After all, in those days, where survival was paramount, Singaporeans were segregated.
And before houses were upgraded to high-rise flats and before HDB imposed the Ethnic Integration Policy, one can’t deny that where Singaporeans lived was once segregated along racial lines.
But it is not who we young Muslims are now.
Muslim youths have been seen socialising with friends from other races without compromising their faith. (Reuters).
Will the threat of the 1964 race riots or of inter-racial tensions tearing the fabric of Singapore society ever go away? No, and it never will.
But yet, at the same time, I don’t think it is an imminent danger.
The one good thing that has emerged from the hullabaloo over MM Lee’s remarks is that, while controversial, they have stirred fierce debate and discussion, which builds upon the framework of our current understanding and inter-connectedness.
They have also served to dispel skewed mindsets and ageing perceptions.
Most importantly though, MM Lee’s comments have forced me to put up a mirror to myself and those of my — and my elders’ — generation and reminded us again of the need to engage in discourse among Malay Muslims and those from other races and religions.
*The writer has been volunteering at weekly Meet-the-People-Sessions in PAP Marine Parade Branch for the past two years. He also volunteers at the National Kidney Foundation, where he visits dialysis patients and delivers groceries to them.
COMMENT
By Faris Mokhtar
Uncalled for, unfair and out of touch.
That’s how I would describe Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew’s controversial comments on the racial integration of the Malay-Muslim community in Singapore.
The 87-year-old founding father of modern Singapore had written in his latest book, Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going, “I would say today, we can integrate all religions and races except Islam. I think the Muslims socially do not cause any trouble, but they are distinct and separate.”
He added, “Now, you go to schools with Malay and Chinese, there’s a halal and non-halal segment and so, too, the universities. And they tend to sit separately so as not to be contaminated. All that becomes a social divide.”
When asked what Muslims could do to integrate, he said, “Be less strict on Islamic observances and say, ‘Okay, I’ll eat with you’.”
What followed, understandably so was outrage among Malay-Muslim organisations such as PERDAUS and Jamiyah. Soon after, the government was in frantic “damage control” mode.
First, Minister-in-Charge of Muslim Affairs Dr Yaacob Ibrahim and then, Prime Minister Lee were quick to distance themselves, and the government, from MM Lee’s frank “hard truth”.
Well I, for one, respectfully beg to differ from MM Lee. As a young Malay-Muslim born in the late 80s, I think his points are inaccurate and out of touch.
Public or government schools have and will continue to have halal and non-halal stalls. This is to ensure that the food meet the religious dietary requirements of Muslims students such as how vegetarian stalls mainly cater to students who are practicing Buddhists or Hindus.
But there is no such thing as segregated seating areas for both Muslim and non-Muslim students. Students buy their own food and sit wherever they choose.
Even in army camps, where the cookhouse is still separated into the “halal” and “non-halal” sections, nowhere is it said that Muslims are not able to have meals with the Chinese, or vice versa.
There is nothing in the Koran that forbids Muslims from sharing spaces with non-Muslims. In fact, they are encouraged to integrate with the society and such actions do not make one “unMuslim-like” in nature.
And it goes beyond just food. We, the young, are simply different in our ways and thinking.
I still enjoy the company of my friends — Chinese, Indian, Eurasians and Malays — in secondary schools and college. We still catch up regularly for movies, shopping and visit each other houses for casual get-togethers and parties.
When it comes to food, I order my ”halal” food and sit down and have my meal with them side-by-side. If we attend birthdays or house parties organised by non-Malay friends, I and my fellow Muslims will opt for soft drinks while the rest chooses alcoholic beverages.
The point is that, we do socialise and go for gatherings – who says we can’t? And those of my generation agree with me.
“I think his views are myopic and do not paint an accurate picture,” said 22-year old Faizal Shaharuddin, an undergraduate from NUS.
“When we serve national service in the army, you can see that everyone integrate well together. We sit and eat meals together and take good care of one another, regardless of race and religion.”
In fact, even some of my Muslim friends are even dating girls from other races. For instance, a close friend who is studying to be a teacher in NTU-NIE, has been dating a girl of Chinese-Philippine heritage for over a year.
I recognise that MM Lee’s views, and those of his generation, are shaped by their struggle for independence in post-war Malaya and the bitter separation from Malaysia. After all, in those days, where survival was paramount, Singaporeans were segregated.
And before houses were upgraded to high-rise flats and before HDB imposed the Ethnic Integration Policy, one can’t deny that where Singaporeans lived was once segregated along racial lines.
But it is not who we young Muslims are now.
Muslim youths have been seen socialising with friends from other races without compromising their faith. (Reuters).
Will the threat of the 1964 race riots or of inter-racial tensions tearing the fabric of Singapore society ever go away? No, and it never will.
But yet, at the same time, I don’t think it is an imminent danger.
The one good thing that has emerged from the hullabaloo over MM Lee’s remarks is that, while controversial, they have stirred fierce debate and discussion, which builds upon the framework of our current understanding and inter-connectedness.
They have also served to dispel skewed mindsets and ageing perceptions.
Most importantly though, MM Lee’s comments have forced me to put up a mirror to myself and those of my — and my elders’ — generation and reminded us again of the need to engage in discourse among Malay Muslims and those from other races and religions.
*The writer has been volunteering at weekly Meet-the-People-Sessions in PAP Marine Parade Branch for the past two years. He also volunteers at the National Kidney Foundation, where he visits dialysis patients and delivers groceries to them.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Dr Mahathir slam MM Lee: MM Lee does not respect religion
Just want to share this article.. not sure what eating MM Lee when he make a remarks in the newly launched book “Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going“ caused sparked in Singapore.
Our Dr M also commented as follows:-
Malaysia’s former premier Mahathir Mohamad has publicly denounced Singapore Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew for his remarks on Muslims in his recently published book, “Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going”.
Dr Mahathir accused Mr Lee of not being respectful of religion and blamed him for Singapore and Malaysia’s separation in 1965. The elder statesman of Malaysian politics also accused Mr Lee for recent remarks linking Singapore Muslims’ beliefs and racial integration in the island-nation.
“I’m not surprised by his statement because to him religion is not important,” Dr Mahathir told Malaysian paper, Utusan Malaysia’s Sunday edition, Mingguan Malaysia.
“For him, the end justifies the means, so if he wants racial integration in Singapore, he won’t let Islam stand in the way of his goals. That is Kuan Yew. He totally does not respect religion and the sensitivities of other races.”
Dr Mahathir’s criticisms have added to the firestorm of debate within the Muslim community in Singapore and Malaysia, which first started when MM Lee said Muslims were “distinct” and “separate” and that they don’t do enough to integrate with the rest of society, such as having meals together.
Malay-language dailies in Malaysia including Utusan and Berita Harian, have lashed out at Mr Lee through various articles and commentaries, saying Mr Lee was trying to sow discord among the two neighbouring countries.
They also add that Mr Lee should learn more about Islam before making statements about Muslims. Dr Mahathir also claimed that Malays in Singapore had no choice but to compromise their beliefs.
“They are afraid of the Government,” he said. “I also feel that the Malays are careful when they speak up because they are worried they would be victimised. That is the attitude of the Malays in Singapore.”
In the interview, Dr Mahathir also fired back that while Malaysia ensured equal opportunities for all races, Singapore’s Malays were “weak” and marginalised.
He also blamed Mr Lee for breaking a promise not to contest in east Malaysia in the 1964 elections, saying it was his actions that led to the separation of Singapore from Malaysia.
Dr Mahathir added that other countries might have responded to such a situation “using force”, but Malaysia’s then Prime Minister, Tunku Abdul Rahman, “chose to separate Singapore and give independence to the country”.
“That’s why it is not true when Singapore accuses us of having malice towards them,” he said.
In Singapore, Mr Lee’s comments have also sparked outrage from various Muslim groups, including the local association of Muslim scholars, PERDAUS and Jamiyah, a member of the Inter-Religious Organisation.
Singapore’s Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong has since tried to distance his father’s comments from the government and said, ”My own perspective on how things are in Singapore is not quite the same as MM Lee’s,” adding that his own view is shared by the Government.
During a community event on Sunday, PM Lee also paid tribute to the way the Muslim community in Singapore “has made great efforts to integrate with the other communities and with Singapore society to join the mainstream.”
Our Dr M also commented as follows:-
Malaysia’s former premier Mahathir Mohamad has publicly denounced Singapore Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew for his remarks on Muslims in his recently published book, “Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going”.
Dr Mahathir accused Mr Lee of not being respectful of religion and blamed him for Singapore and Malaysia’s separation in 1965. The elder statesman of Malaysian politics also accused Mr Lee for recent remarks linking Singapore Muslims’ beliefs and racial integration in the island-nation.
“I’m not surprised by his statement because to him religion is not important,” Dr Mahathir told Malaysian paper, Utusan Malaysia’s Sunday edition, Mingguan Malaysia.
“For him, the end justifies the means, so if he wants racial integration in Singapore, he won’t let Islam stand in the way of his goals. That is Kuan Yew. He totally does not respect religion and the sensitivities of other races.”
Dr Mahathir’s criticisms have added to the firestorm of debate within the Muslim community in Singapore and Malaysia, which first started when MM Lee said Muslims were “distinct” and “separate” and that they don’t do enough to integrate with the rest of society, such as having meals together.
Malay-language dailies in Malaysia including Utusan and Berita Harian, have lashed out at Mr Lee through various articles and commentaries, saying Mr Lee was trying to sow discord among the two neighbouring countries.
They also add that Mr Lee should learn more about Islam before making statements about Muslims. Dr Mahathir also claimed that Malays in Singapore had no choice but to compromise their beliefs.
“They are afraid of the Government,” he said. “I also feel that the Malays are careful when they speak up because they are worried they would be victimised. That is the attitude of the Malays in Singapore.”
In the interview, Dr Mahathir also fired back that while Malaysia ensured equal opportunities for all races, Singapore’s Malays were “weak” and marginalised.
He also blamed Mr Lee for breaking a promise not to contest in east Malaysia in the 1964 elections, saying it was his actions that led to the separation of Singapore from Malaysia.
Dr Mahathir added that other countries might have responded to such a situation “using force”, but Malaysia’s then Prime Minister, Tunku Abdul Rahman, “chose to separate Singapore and give independence to the country”.
“That’s why it is not true when Singapore accuses us of having malice towards them,” he said.
In Singapore, Mr Lee’s comments have also sparked outrage from various Muslim groups, including the local association of Muslim scholars, PERDAUS and Jamiyah, a member of the Inter-Religious Organisation.
Singapore’s Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong has since tried to distance his father’s comments from the government and said, ”My own perspective on how things are in Singapore is not quite the same as MM Lee’s,” adding that his own view is shared by the Government.
During a community event on Sunday, PM Lee also paid tribute to the way the Muslim community in Singapore “has made great efforts to integrate with the other communities and with Singapore society to join the mainstream.”
Nonverbal Communications: Escape the Pitfalls
Since new year, I keep on posting the articles about the job interview, job change, character of the boss.. bla.. bla bla.. actually, these reading articles are for me.. coz I'm thinking of changing my work.. I don't want to miss reading the articles.. that's why I posted it here.. I really hope by sharing all these articles it will help other people in the need also.. :D
It begins even before you say your first word in an interview. As the interviewer walks toward you to shake hands, an opinion is already being formed. And as you sit waiting to spew out your answers to questions you've prepared for, you are already being judged by your appearance, posture, smile or your nervous look.
Look back at speakers or teachers you've listened to. Which ones stand out as memorable? The ones who were more animated and entertaining, or the ones who just gave out information? This is not to say you have to entertain the interviewer -- no jokes required -- but it does mean the conversation should be animated and interactive. If you say you are excited about the prospect of working for this company but don't show any enthusiasm, your message will probably fall flat. So smile, gesture once in a while, show some energy and breathe life into the interview experience.
And don't underestimate the value of a smile. In addition to the enthusiasm it expresses to the interviewer, smiling often makes you feel better about yourself.
Nonverbal Messages:
The Handshake: It's your first encounter with the interviewer. She holds out her hand and receives a limp, damp hand in return -- not a very good beginning. Your handshake should be firm -- not bone-crushing -- and your hand should be dry and warm. Try running cold water on your hands when you first arrive at the interview site. Run warm water if your hands tend to be cold. The insides of your wrists are especially sensitive to temperature control.
Your Posture: Stand and sit erect. We're not talking ramrod posture, but show some energy and enthusiasm. A slouching posture looks tired and uncaring. Check yourself out in a mirror or on videotape.
Eye Contact: Look the interviewer in the eye. You don't want to stare at her like you're trying to look into her soul, but be sure to make sure your eyes meet frequently. Avoid constantly looking around the room while you are talking, because that can convey nervousness or a lack of confidence with what is being discussed.
Don't Fidget: There is nothing worse than people playing with their hair, clicking pen tops, tapping feet or unconsciously touching parts of the body.
Preparing what you have to say is important, but practicing how you will say it is imperative. The nonverbal message can speak louder than the verbal message you're sending.
It begins even before you say your first word in an interview. As the interviewer walks toward you to shake hands, an opinion is already being formed. And as you sit waiting to spew out your answers to questions you've prepared for, you are already being judged by your appearance, posture, smile or your nervous look.
Look back at speakers or teachers you've listened to. Which ones stand out as memorable? The ones who were more animated and entertaining, or the ones who just gave out information? This is not to say you have to entertain the interviewer -- no jokes required -- but it does mean the conversation should be animated and interactive. If you say you are excited about the prospect of working for this company but don't show any enthusiasm, your message will probably fall flat. So smile, gesture once in a while, show some energy and breathe life into the interview experience.
And don't underestimate the value of a smile. In addition to the enthusiasm it expresses to the interviewer, smiling often makes you feel better about yourself.
Nonverbal Messages:
The Handshake: It's your first encounter with the interviewer. She holds out her hand and receives a limp, damp hand in return -- not a very good beginning. Your handshake should be firm -- not bone-crushing -- and your hand should be dry and warm. Try running cold water on your hands when you first arrive at the interview site. Run warm water if your hands tend to be cold. The insides of your wrists are especially sensitive to temperature control.
Your Posture: Stand and sit erect. We're not talking ramrod posture, but show some energy and enthusiasm. A slouching posture looks tired and uncaring. Check yourself out in a mirror or on videotape.
Eye Contact: Look the interviewer in the eye. You don't want to stare at her like you're trying to look into her soul, but be sure to make sure your eyes meet frequently. Avoid constantly looking around the room while you are talking, because that can convey nervousness or a lack of confidence with what is being discussed.
Don't Fidget: There is nothing worse than people playing with their hair, clicking pen tops, tapping feet or unconsciously touching parts of the body.
Preparing what you have to say is important, but practicing how you will say it is imperative. The nonverbal message can speak louder than the verbal message you're sending.
Friday, January 28, 2011
The 10 Worst Mistakes Career Changers Make
Changing careers is never easy. Half the world thinks you've lost your mind, headhunters say you'll never work again and your mother-in-law steps up the old, "I told you so" routine. But for many burned-out, bored or multitalented folks who are sitting on skills they're not getting a chance to use, changing fields is the only way to keep from losing their marbles.
Regardless of your career change strategy, never make these 10 mistakes
1. Don't look for a job in another field without some intense introspection.
Nothing is worse than leaping before you look. Make sure you're not escaping to a field that fits you just as poorly as your last. Check out these self-assessment articles.
Get thorough information about the fields you're considering by networking, reading and doing online research. Having informational interviews with alumni from your college, colleagues, friends or family is a fun way to get the scoop on different fields.
2. Don't look for "hot" fields unless they're a good fit for you.
You wouldn't try to squeeze into your skinny cousin's suit, so why try a field because it works for him? People who are trying to help you will come along and do the equivalent of whispering "plastics" in your ear. Instead of jumping at their suggestions, take time to consider your options. Decide what you really want to do. When you enter a field just because it's hot, burnout isn't far behind.
3. Don't go into a field because your friend is doing well in it.
Get thorough information about the fields you're considering by networking, reading and doing online research. Having informational interviews with alumni from your college, colleagues, friends or family is a fun way to get the scoop on different fields.
4. Don't stick to possibilities you already know about.
Stretch your perception of what might work for you. Read some job profiles and explore career fields you learn about from self-assessment exercises.
5. Don't let money be the deciding factor.
There's not enough money in the world to make you happy if your job doesn't suit you. Workplace dissatisfaction and stress is the number-one health problem for working adults. This is particularly true for career changers, who often earn less until they get their sea legs in a different field.
6. Don't keep your dissatisfaction to yourself or try to make the switch alone.
This is the time to talk to people (probably not your boss just yet). Friends, family and colleagues need to know what's going on so they can help you tap into those 90-plus percent of jobs that aren't advertised until somebody has them all sewn up.
7. Don't go back to school to get retreaded unless you've done some test drives in the new field.
You're never too old for an internship, a volunteer experience or trying your hand at a contract assignment in a new field. There are lots of ways to get experience that won't cost you anything except your time. A new degree may or may not make the world sit up and take notice. Be very sure where you want to go before you put yourself through the pain and debt of another degree program.
8. Be careful when using placement agencies or search firms.
Do some research to be sure to find a good match. Ask those who work in the field you're trying to get into or other successful career changers for suggestions. Try to find a firm that knows how to be creative when placing career changers -- not one that solely focuses on moving people up the ladder in the same field.
9. Don't go to a career counsellor or a career transitions agency expecting they can tell you which field to enter.
Career advisors are facilitators, and they'll follow your lead. They can help ferret out your long-buried dreams and talents, but you'll have to do the research and the decision making by yourself. Anyone who promises to tell you what to do is dangerous.
10. Don't expect to switch overnight.
A thorough career change usually will take a minimum of six months to pull off, and the time frequently stretches to a year or more. Changing fields is one of the most invigorating things you can do. It's like experiencing youth all over again, except with the wisdom of whatever age you are now.
Regardless of your career change strategy, never make these 10 mistakes
1. Don't look for a job in another field without some intense introspection.
Nothing is worse than leaping before you look. Make sure you're not escaping to a field that fits you just as poorly as your last. Check out these self-assessment articles.
Get thorough information about the fields you're considering by networking, reading and doing online research. Having informational interviews with alumni from your college, colleagues, friends or family is a fun way to get the scoop on different fields.
2. Don't look for "hot" fields unless they're a good fit for you.
You wouldn't try to squeeze into your skinny cousin's suit, so why try a field because it works for him? People who are trying to help you will come along and do the equivalent of whispering "plastics" in your ear. Instead of jumping at their suggestions, take time to consider your options. Decide what you really want to do. When you enter a field just because it's hot, burnout isn't far behind.
3. Don't go into a field because your friend is doing well in it.
Get thorough information about the fields you're considering by networking, reading and doing online research. Having informational interviews with alumni from your college, colleagues, friends or family is a fun way to get the scoop on different fields.
4. Don't stick to possibilities you already know about.
Stretch your perception of what might work for you. Read some job profiles and explore career fields you learn about from self-assessment exercises.
5. Don't let money be the deciding factor.
There's not enough money in the world to make you happy if your job doesn't suit you. Workplace dissatisfaction and stress is the number-one health problem for working adults. This is particularly true for career changers, who often earn less until they get their sea legs in a different field.
6. Don't keep your dissatisfaction to yourself or try to make the switch alone.
This is the time to talk to people (probably not your boss just yet). Friends, family and colleagues need to know what's going on so they can help you tap into those 90-plus percent of jobs that aren't advertised until somebody has them all sewn up.
7. Don't go back to school to get retreaded unless you've done some test drives in the new field.
You're never too old for an internship, a volunteer experience or trying your hand at a contract assignment in a new field. There are lots of ways to get experience that won't cost you anything except your time. A new degree may or may not make the world sit up and take notice. Be very sure where you want to go before you put yourself through the pain and debt of another degree program.
8. Be careful when using placement agencies or search firms.
Do some research to be sure to find a good match. Ask those who work in the field you're trying to get into or other successful career changers for suggestions. Try to find a firm that knows how to be creative when placing career changers -- not one that solely focuses on moving people up the ladder in the same field.
9. Don't go to a career counsellor or a career transitions agency expecting they can tell you which field to enter.
Career advisors are facilitators, and they'll follow your lead. They can help ferret out your long-buried dreams and talents, but you'll have to do the research and the decision making by yourself. Anyone who promises to tell you what to do is dangerous.
10. Don't expect to switch overnight.
A thorough career change usually will take a minimum of six months to pull off, and the time frequently stretches to a year or more. Changing fields is one of the most invigorating things you can do. It's like experiencing youth all over again, except with the wisdom of whatever age you are now.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
How to Work with a Bad Boss
At some point in our careers, we all face having to work for a bad boss.
Unfortunately, just because we think they're bad doesn't mean everyone else does. No matter how much they frustrate us, bad bosses don't always get called out and replacing them can be difficult. That means it's important to learn how to work for them.
Here are six types of bad bosses and tips for working with them:
The Unorganized Boss:This boss can't keep data and information flow straight, much less organize the people who come up with that data. This means you'll have to manage the flow--or at least the part of the flow that applies to you. Consider keeping e-mail strings, documenting notes from meetings, and being ready to take on extra administration responsibilities to help things move smoothly.
The Lying Boss: We assume leaders are honest by virtue of their role, but this isn't always true. A lying boss is frustrating and may put you in an awkward position. Always take the high road, reminding him what he said in previous conversations. For difficult situations, bring a colleague to the meeting so you aren't the only one hearing and substantiating what's said.
The Career-Ambitious Boss: Ambition isn't usually a negative, but it can go sour if your boss ends up taking all the credit when things are go well and pointing fingers when they don't. The best news if you work for this type of person is they won't be around long. If they're successful, they'll quickly move up and on. If they aren't, they'll go someplace else. In the meantime, the better you can make this boss look, the happier she'll be. And who knows, you might be a beneficiary of her promotion.
The Always-Late Boss: This boss is never on time for meetings, which wastes your time and can even make you look bad. This isn't likely to change, so learn to cope by setting work aside or bringing it with you so you'll always have something productive to do while you're waiting. If your boss is late for meetings with others, go ahead and have a mini-meeting before your boss arrives and try to cover the agenda items your boss doesn't need to be there for anyway.
The Last-Minute Boss: This boss just can't get around to assigning work until the last minute, usually the night before the project is due or on Friday afternoons before long weekends. Take control of this situation by constantly asking what's coming up and showing the initiative that demonstrates you want to get ahead. You might also want to be flexible during the times when you think a project might come your way.
The No-Bad-News Boss: On the surface, having a boss who's always positive looks like a good thing, but you need the bad news with the good if you want to improve. Plus, if you don't get any of the bad news, you can't put in context what is good. With this boss, it's important to ask them to share both good and bad news, and make those situations comfortable for them. Be sure to ask how you can improve and better support the business.
Unfortunately, this isn't an exhaustive list of bad boss behaviors; a boss can be difficult to work with beyond what we've described. But unless you're this boss's only direct report, know you're not alone. Look to other colleagues who report to this boss for emotional and career support. And who knows, with a little group support and intervention, the bad boss might become a good one.
Rusty Rueff, director and career expert for jobs and career website Glassdoor.com has been a CEO, led HR in global companies and is co-author of Talent Force: A New Manifesto for the Human Side of Business.
Unfortunately, just because we think they're bad doesn't mean everyone else does. No matter how much they frustrate us, bad bosses don't always get called out and replacing them can be difficult. That means it's important to learn how to work for them.
Here are six types of bad bosses and tips for working with them:
The Unorganized Boss:This boss can't keep data and information flow straight, much less organize the people who come up with that data. This means you'll have to manage the flow--or at least the part of the flow that applies to you. Consider keeping e-mail strings, documenting notes from meetings, and being ready to take on extra administration responsibilities to help things move smoothly.
The Lying Boss: We assume leaders are honest by virtue of their role, but this isn't always true. A lying boss is frustrating and may put you in an awkward position. Always take the high road, reminding him what he said in previous conversations. For difficult situations, bring a colleague to the meeting so you aren't the only one hearing and substantiating what's said.
The Career-Ambitious Boss: Ambition isn't usually a negative, but it can go sour if your boss ends up taking all the credit when things are go well and pointing fingers when they don't. The best news if you work for this type of person is they won't be around long. If they're successful, they'll quickly move up and on. If they aren't, they'll go someplace else. In the meantime, the better you can make this boss look, the happier she'll be. And who knows, you might be a beneficiary of her promotion.
The Always-Late Boss: This boss is never on time for meetings, which wastes your time and can even make you look bad. This isn't likely to change, so learn to cope by setting work aside or bringing it with you so you'll always have something productive to do while you're waiting. If your boss is late for meetings with others, go ahead and have a mini-meeting before your boss arrives and try to cover the agenda items your boss doesn't need to be there for anyway.
The Last-Minute Boss: This boss just can't get around to assigning work until the last minute, usually the night before the project is due or on Friday afternoons before long weekends. Take control of this situation by constantly asking what's coming up and showing the initiative that demonstrates you want to get ahead. You might also want to be flexible during the times when you think a project might come your way.
The No-Bad-News Boss: On the surface, having a boss who's always positive looks like a good thing, but you need the bad news with the good if you want to improve. Plus, if you don't get any of the bad news, you can't put in context what is good. With this boss, it's important to ask them to share both good and bad news, and make those situations comfortable for them. Be sure to ask how you can improve and better support the business.
Unfortunately, this isn't an exhaustive list of bad boss behaviors; a boss can be difficult to work with beyond what we've described. But unless you're this boss's only direct report, know you're not alone. Look to other colleagues who report to this boss for emotional and career support. And who knows, with a little group support and intervention, the bad boss might become a good one.
Rusty Rueff, director and career expert for jobs and career website Glassdoor.com has been a CEO, led HR in global companies and is co-author of Talent Force: A New Manifesto for the Human Side of Business.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Preparing for Your Next Career Move
The best time to think about a career change is before you think you need it. If you're presented with a job opportunity or forced into making a career decision unexpectedly, and you haven't prepared, you run the risk of making the wrong decision. Especially in this employment market, it's vitally important to make sure your career choices match your future goals, and that you're moving in the right professional direction.
Just like an attorney takes the time to prepare and present a case in a courtroom, you need to build a case for your next career move. If you start preparing now, you're more likely to give this next move the dedicated thinking time it deserves.
No matter where you are in your career, here's what you should think about to prepare for that next big decision:
What do I really want to do?
Until you can answer this question unashamedly, unabashedly, and with full resolution and commitment, you should be careful about making any drastic career moves. To help figure out what you want to do, make a list of your best life and work experiences and look for a pattern that syncs with your dream career. (Hint: You can also ask those closest to you to help truthfully recap experiences that have made you happiest.)
Who do I want to do it with?
Think about the type of company culture and people you want to work with day-to-day. (Hint: These might be people who you do, or could readily, call friends.) A great job working with people you don't identify with can turn out to be a miserable job.
Where do I want to do it?
Location is important. Consider distance from home, commuting time, friend and family connections, and even weather. It does matter where you work because you (and your family) have to be happy when you come home. (Hint: If you feel ready for a change of location and scenery, be sure to factor in the financial and emotional costs of relocating. Relocations remain one of the most stressful changes that can happen in our careers.)
How much do I need to do it?
Research how much you are worth in the market where the job is located and what your salary and compensation package should be in relation to your peers. If you don't know what you are worth, then you could end up missing opportunities, or worse yet, make a move and then question why you didn't do your homework. (Hint: Use websites like Glassdoor.com to establish what your peers are making and see what a company and its competitors pay for a specific job position.)
If you've built your case and can answer all of these questions without hesitation, you'll be ready when the next job opportunity beckons, even if you aren't expecting it.
Rusty Rueff, director and career expert for jobs and career website Glassdoor.com has been a CEO, led HR in global companies and is co-author of Talent Force: A New Manifesto for the Human Side of Business.
Just like an attorney takes the time to prepare and present a case in a courtroom, you need to build a case for your next career move. If you start preparing now, you're more likely to give this next move the dedicated thinking time it deserves.
No matter where you are in your career, here's what you should think about to prepare for that next big decision:
What do I really want to do?
Until you can answer this question unashamedly, unabashedly, and with full resolution and commitment, you should be careful about making any drastic career moves. To help figure out what you want to do, make a list of your best life and work experiences and look for a pattern that syncs with your dream career. (Hint: You can also ask those closest to you to help truthfully recap experiences that have made you happiest.)
Who do I want to do it with?
Think about the type of company culture and people you want to work with day-to-day. (Hint: These might be people who you do, or could readily, call friends.) A great job working with people you don't identify with can turn out to be a miserable job.
Where do I want to do it?
Location is important. Consider distance from home, commuting time, friend and family connections, and even weather. It does matter where you work because you (and your family) have to be happy when you come home. (Hint: If you feel ready for a change of location and scenery, be sure to factor in the financial and emotional costs of relocating. Relocations remain one of the most stressful changes that can happen in our careers.)
How much do I need to do it?
Research how much you are worth in the market where the job is located and what your salary and compensation package should be in relation to your peers. If you don't know what you are worth, then you could end up missing opportunities, or worse yet, make a move and then question why you didn't do your homework. (Hint: Use websites like Glassdoor.com to establish what your peers are making and see what a company and its competitors pay for a specific job position.)
If you've built your case and can answer all of these questions without hesitation, you'll be ready when the next job opportunity beckons, even if you aren't expecting it.
Rusty Rueff, director and career expert for jobs and career website Glassdoor.com has been a CEO, led HR in global companies and is co-author of Talent Force: A New Manifesto for the Human Side of Business.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Malulah Rosmah buat kerja menteri kabinet
Dari Harakah Daily.. isu ini buat aku terfikir seketika.. aku selalu tengok muka dia.. selepas sahaja Najib naik jadi PM.. muka dia muncul di kaca TV.. dan selepas itu kerap muncul dikhalayak umum..
aku tinggal di kota singa dalam 4-5 tahun.. x pernah aku tahu siapakan isteri PM s'pore.. dan aku rasa isteri PM dimana2 pun tidak ada kepentingan dalam sesebuah negara.. mungkin penting untuk memberi semangat kepada sang suami yakni Perdana Menteri, dan menyuntik motivasi kepada sang suami dari segi fizikal dan mental..
Berita yg mengatakan Rosmah Mansor mempunyai opis di Putra Jaya, bebetol buat aku kebingungan sendiri..
PARIT BUNTAR, 22 Jan: Pejabat Wanita Pertama Malaysia (FLOM) di Putrajaya adalah satu pembaharuan yang julung kali ada dalam sejarah pentadbiran negara.
“Perkara ini boleh disifatkan sebagai tindakan tiada adab dan biadab dalam isu pentadbiran negara,” kata Ketua Penerangan PAS Perak, Drs Khalil Idham Lim ketika ditemui di sini.
Khalil memberi respons dengan menjelaskan bahawa pejabat rasmi Rosmah yang kapasitinya adalah sebesar satu bahagian atau divisyen.
Tambahnya, bahagian FLOM adalah rasmi dan ia sebaris dengan divisyen lain termasuklah Pejabat Setiausaha Politik, Pejabat Penasihat Perdana Menteri, Pejabat Ekonomi Perdana Menteri dan Pejabat Pengurusan Sri Perdana.
“Dia isteri PM, jadi dia tidak perlu bekerja untuk sara keluarga, malah PM sudah ada menterinya yang lengkap dengan jabatan bagi mengurus tadbir kerajaan, Rosmah tidak diperlukan, dia tidak lebih dari mendampingi PM dalam majlis rasmi seperti amalan isteri PM sebelum ini. Dan jangan nak jadi menteri dan lakukan sesuatu yang tidak masuk akal,” katanya yang juga Adun Titi Serong.
Beliau turut mempersoalkan tindakan Rosmah menghadiri dan menyampaikan ucaptama bertajuk 'Kompetensi Guru Dalam Membentuk Generasi Akan Datang' pada Persidangan Antarabangsa Pertama anjuran Kementerian Pendidikan Arab Saudi minggu lepas.
“Menteri-menteri yang dilantik dalam kabinet Najib seolah-olah sudah hilang peranan. Siapakah Menteri Pelajaran? Mengapakah semudah itu dan tanpa ada rasa bersalah dia melakukan kerja-kerja menteri berulang kali?” soal beliau.
Beliau juga menyifatkan Malaysia sudah mempunyai kerajaan yang layak diberi jolokan sebagai kerajaan suami isteri.
“Suatu yang amat memalukan jika perkara ini sampai ke pengetahuan rakan-rakan dari negara luar, Malaysia dilihat bercelaru apabila isteri PM melakukan kerja-kerja menteri kabinet," ujarnya.
Justeru, ujarnya ahli-ahli Umno khususnya wajar berfikir kembali mengenai taat setia mereka terhadap BN.
“Sanggupkah anda melihat negara luar terus mentertawakan Malaysia tercinta disebabkan pemimpin BN berkelakuan pelik dan aneh," soalnya.
Beliau berpandangan bahawa kerja Rosmah hanya boleh dihentikan dengan mengalahkan BN dengan memberikan peluang kepada Pakatan Rakyat memulihkan imej negara pada PRU13 nanti.
Katanya lagi, apabila Najib terus berkuasa selagi itu Rosmah akan mengganggu pentadbiran negara.
aku tinggal di kota singa dalam 4-5 tahun.. x pernah aku tahu siapakan isteri PM s'pore.. dan aku rasa isteri PM dimana2 pun tidak ada kepentingan dalam sesebuah negara.. mungkin penting untuk memberi semangat kepada sang suami yakni Perdana Menteri, dan menyuntik motivasi kepada sang suami dari segi fizikal dan mental..
Berita yg mengatakan Rosmah Mansor mempunyai opis di Putra Jaya, bebetol buat aku kebingungan sendiri..
PARIT BUNTAR, 22 Jan: Pejabat Wanita Pertama Malaysia (FLOM) di Putrajaya adalah satu pembaharuan yang julung kali ada dalam sejarah pentadbiran negara.
“Perkara ini boleh disifatkan sebagai tindakan tiada adab dan biadab dalam isu pentadbiran negara,” kata Ketua Penerangan PAS Perak, Drs Khalil Idham Lim ketika ditemui di sini.
Khalil memberi respons dengan menjelaskan bahawa pejabat rasmi Rosmah yang kapasitinya adalah sebesar satu bahagian atau divisyen.
Tambahnya, bahagian FLOM adalah rasmi dan ia sebaris dengan divisyen lain termasuklah Pejabat Setiausaha Politik, Pejabat Penasihat Perdana Menteri, Pejabat Ekonomi Perdana Menteri dan Pejabat Pengurusan Sri Perdana.
“Dia isteri PM, jadi dia tidak perlu bekerja untuk sara keluarga, malah PM sudah ada menterinya yang lengkap dengan jabatan bagi mengurus tadbir kerajaan, Rosmah tidak diperlukan, dia tidak lebih dari mendampingi PM dalam majlis rasmi seperti amalan isteri PM sebelum ini. Dan jangan nak jadi menteri dan lakukan sesuatu yang tidak masuk akal,” katanya yang juga Adun Titi Serong.
Beliau turut mempersoalkan tindakan Rosmah menghadiri dan menyampaikan ucaptama bertajuk 'Kompetensi Guru Dalam Membentuk Generasi Akan Datang' pada Persidangan Antarabangsa Pertama anjuran Kementerian Pendidikan Arab Saudi minggu lepas.
“Menteri-menteri yang dilantik dalam kabinet Najib seolah-olah sudah hilang peranan. Siapakah Menteri Pelajaran? Mengapakah semudah itu dan tanpa ada rasa bersalah dia melakukan kerja-kerja menteri berulang kali?” soal beliau.
Beliau juga menyifatkan Malaysia sudah mempunyai kerajaan yang layak diberi jolokan sebagai kerajaan suami isteri.
“Suatu yang amat memalukan jika perkara ini sampai ke pengetahuan rakan-rakan dari negara luar, Malaysia dilihat bercelaru apabila isteri PM melakukan kerja-kerja menteri kabinet," ujarnya.
Justeru, ujarnya ahli-ahli Umno khususnya wajar berfikir kembali mengenai taat setia mereka terhadap BN.
“Sanggupkah anda melihat negara luar terus mentertawakan Malaysia tercinta disebabkan pemimpin BN berkelakuan pelik dan aneh," soalnya.
Beliau berpandangan bahawa kerja Rosmah hanya boleh dihentikan dengan mengalahkan BN dengan memberikan peluang kepada Pakatan Rakyat memulihkan imej negara pada PRU13 nanti.
Katanya lagi, apabila Najib terus berkuasa selagi itu Rosmah akan mengganggu pentadbiran negara.
Singapore ‘not yet a nation’: MM Lee
For all its gleaming skyscrapers and successful transformation from a tiny fishing village to one of Asia’s — if not the world’s — most modern cities, Singapore is not yet the finished product.
That’s the frank, honest and brutal assessment of none other than Mr Lee Kuan Yew, the 87-year-old founding father of the city-state.
“We are a nation in the making. Will we make it? Am I certain we’ll get there? No, I cannot say that. Something can go wrong somewhere and we’ll fall apart,” said the Minister Mentor at the launch of his new book at St Regis Hotel on Friday.
Speaking in front of an audience of over 160 people, comprising of diplomats, Members of Parliaments and academics, MM Lee went on to assess Singapore’s chances of becoming a true nation.
“If you believe it’s a reality, then I think you’re making a mistake. It’s an aspiration, it’s something we must make into reality probably in another 20,30, 40, 50 years.”
At what stage would he consider Singapore a true “nation”?
When its people were willing to make sacrifices and “die for one another”, he said.
He gave the example of China and Japan as nations having been ravaged and demolished but whose ”people have come together to rebuild it”.
But if the same thing were to happen to Singapore, it may “simply fall apart”, said MM Lee.
“I do not deceive myself for one moment that our differences of race, culture and religion will disappear,” he said, before urging the current and future generations of Singaporean leaders to “nurture, strengthen and build upon” the current Singapore.
WIDE-RANGING BOOK
The 458-page book, entitled Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths To Keep Singapore Going, also reveals MM Lee’s views on topics ranging his personal interpretations of love, family, homosexuality and even fengshui.
When asked if he believes in fengshui for instance, he laughed and said it was “utter rubbish” that people think he does.
“I’m a pragmatic, practical fella. I do not believe in horoscopes, I do not believe in fengshui, and I’m not superstitious about numbers,” he said.
MM Lee also calls love at first sight “a grave mistake” that one will regret. He advised Singaporeans to choose “somebody who will raise your standard”, joking that it was exactly what he did.
The 87-year-old also keeps an open mind about homosexuality.
“It’s not a lifestyle,” MM Lee said. “There’s a genetic difference, they’re born that way and that’s that.”
“So if two men and two women’re that way, just leave them alone,” he reiterated.
In the new book, Mr Lee also revealed his wish to have the family home torn down for redevelopment after he dies, even though many would probably wish to have the memorable place conserved.
“I’ve seen other houses, Nehru‘s, Shakespeare‘s. They become a shambles after a while.”
“Because of my house, the neighbouring houses cannot build high. Now demolish my house and change the planning rules, go up, the land value will go up,” he added.
After more than half a century in the public eye, fans and critics alike, MM Lee says he remains driven by the two things he holds closest to his heart – his family and his country.
“I did some sharp things to get things right,” he admitted. “Maybe they disapprove of it, (found it) too harsh, but a lot was at stake.”
“At the end of the day, what have I got? Just a successful Singapore.”
MM Lee’s new book is now available at all major bookstores for $39.90.
Friday, January 21, 2011
Oprah Winfrey: I contemplated suicide
Oprah Winfrey has revealed she considered killing herself when she got pregnant as a teenager.
The talk show host confessed she even drank detergent in a bid to harm herself or the baby as she tried to hide the pregnancy from her family. Oprah was 14 when she discovered she was expecting but later lost the baby. She feels the death was a "second chance" for her as she believes her father would have disowned her if he had found out.
"Getting pregnant was a result of bad choices, not having boundaries, sexual abuse from the time I was nine, ten, 11, 12 and 13," Oprah said in an interview with Piers Morgan for CNN. "I had no connection to that baby. I felt nothing but relief because I felt before that baby was born I was going to have to kill myself.
"I did silly things like drinking detergent, but really I was crying for help."
During the interview Oprah, 56, teased Piers and insisted she wouldn't be reduced to tears. However, near the end of the show she did well up as she spoke about the late civil rights campaigner Martin Luther King. Oprah became emotional when she discussed him, saying he inspired her to become the person she is today.
"Now you are going to make me weep, I could weep over that," she smiled as her eyes glistened. "I would because I hold him in reverence. And I know that I would not be here... this life... the dream that I live in, would not be possible if he hadn't had been who he was."
Oprah also went on to speak about her 25-year relationship with Stedman Graham. The media mogul insists she is more in love with him than ever but she has no plans to tie the knot anytime soon.
"I am not the marrying kind," she explained. "I am a different kind of woman in that I am pretty assured that had I married I wouldn't have remained married because it takes a very different person to put up with all this [her life in the spotlight]."
Oprah didn't answer all of Piers' questions. When quizzed on reports she is worth $2.7 billion, Oprah simply laughed and replied, "You're good."
The talk show host confessed she even drank detergent in a bid to harm herself or the baby as she tried to hide the pregnancy from her family. Oprah was 14 when she discovered she was expecting but later lost the baby. She feels the death was a "second chance" for her as she believes her father would have disowned her if he had found out.
"Getting pregnant was a result of bad choices, not having boundaries, sexual abuse from the time I was nine, ten, 11, 12 and 13," Oprah said in an interview with Piers Morgan for CNN. "I had no connection to that baby. I felt nothing but relief because I felt before that baby was born I was going to have to kill myself.
"I did silly things like drinking detergent, but really I was crying for help."
During the interview Oprah, 56, teased Piers and insisted she wouldn't be reduced to tears. However, near the end of the show she did well up as she spoke about the late civil rights campaigner Martin Luther King. Oprah became emotional when she discussed him, saying he inspired her to become the person she is today.
"Now you are going to make me weep, I could weep over that," she smiled as her eyes glistened. "I would because I hold him in reverence. And I know that I would not be here... this life... the dream that I live in, would not be possible if he hadn't had been who he was."
Oprah also went on to speak about her 25-year relationship with Stedman Graham. The media mogul insists she is more in love with him than ever but she has no plans to tie the knot anytime soon.
"I am not the marrying kind," she explained. "I am a different kind of woman in that I am pretty assured that had I married I wouldn't have remained married because it takes a very different person to put up with all this [her life in the spotlight]."
Oprah didn't answer all of Piers' questions. When quizzed on reports she is worth $2.7 billion, Oprah simply laughed and replied, "You're good."
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Misteri Nusantara: Budak 22 bulan merayau di hutan
Sungguh Misteri, macamana budak nie boleh hilang sampai 3 kilometer dari rumah???
Petikan dari Harian Metro:-
SLIM RIVER: “Saya tidak menolak kemungkinan kehilangan cucu disebabkan unsur ghaib kerana secara logiknya, tidak munasabah kanak-kanak berusia setahun 10 bulan mampu berjalan kaki hampir tiga kilometer ke dalam hutan bersendirian dengan berkaki ayam.
“Apapun kami bersyukur kerana dia ditemui dalam keadaan sihat meskipun ada sedikit kesan calar dan tiada perkara buruk menimpanya,” kata Abdul Wahid Nordin, 52, datuk kepada Nor Aishah Umairah Zamzanuri yang ditemui selamat pagi semalam selepas hampir dua hari dilaporkan hilang.
Nor Aishah yang dijaga neneknya di Kampung Lintah, Kampung Ulu Slim, dekat sini, sementara ibu bapanya, Zamzanuri Salleh, 28, dan Nor Awani Abdul Khalid, 28, bekerja dan tinggal di Ipoh, ditemui dalam ladang getah kira-kira jam 7.30 pagi oleh dua Orang Asli yang kebetulan lalu di kawasan itu dan mendengar suara tangisannya.
Biarpun selepas lebih 18 jam bersendirian sejak dilaporkan hilang kira-kira jam 12 tengah hari kelmarin, selain sedikit calar di kaki dan kesan gigitan nyamuk di beberapa anggota badan, secara keseluruhan keadaan Nor Aishah sihat.
Namun, apa yang mencetuskan misteri ialah lokasi kanak-kanak itu ditemui iaitu dalam ladang getah di pinggir kampung berhampiran hutan dan kira-kira tiga kilometer dari rumah neneknya.
Malah, operasi mencari dan menyelamat yang disertai lebih 70 orang termasuk 25 anggota Jabatan Bomba dan Penyelamat Slim River yang diketuai Penolong Penguasa, Meor Mohd Ali Meor Husin, polis, penduduk kampung dengan dibantu unit anjing pengesan bomba, juga sudah mencari di sekitar kawasan berkenaan pada petang kelmarin, tapi gagal menemuinya.
Zamzanuri turut mengakui kehilangan anaknya itu agak misteri kerana lokasi kanak-kanak itu ditemui di tengah ladang getah berhampiran hutan dan jauh dari rumah penduduk.
“Apapun, saya anggap semua ini ketentuan Tuhan. Paling penting anak saya ditemui dalam keadaan selamat. Saya sangat bersyukur dan berterima kasih kepada semua pihak yang terbabit dalam operasi mencari sejak tengah hari semalam (kelmarin) dan berhajat mengadakan kenduri kesyukuran,” katanya.
Sementara itu, Timbalan Ketua Polis Ibu Pejabat Daerah (IPD) Tanjung Malim, Deputi Superintendan Anuar Osman ketika dihubungi mengesahkan kejadian itu.
Petikan dari Harian Metro:-
SLIM RIVER: “Saya tidak menolak kemungkinan kehilangan cucu disebabkan unsur ghaib kerana secara logiknya, tidak munasabah kanak-kanak berusia setahun 10 bulan mampu berjalan kaki hampir tiga kilometer ke dalam hutan bersendirian dengan berkaki ayam.
“Apapun kami bersyukur kerana dia ditemui dalam keadaan sihat meskipun ada sedikit kesan calar dan tiada perkara buruk menimpanya,” kata Abdul Wahid Nordin, 52, datuk kepada Nor Aishah Umairah Zamzanuri yang ditemui selamat pagi semalam selepas hampir dua hari dilaporkan hilang.
Nor Aishah yang dijaga neneknya di Kampung Lintah, Kampung Ulu Slim, dekat sini, sementara ibu bapanya, Zamzanuri Salleh, 28, dan Nor Awani Abdul Khalid, 28, bekerja dan tinggal di Ipoh, ditemui dalam ladang getah kira-kira jam 7.30 pagi oleh dua Orang Asli yang kebetulan lalu di kawasan itu dan mendengar suara tangisannya.
Biarpun selepas lebih 18 jam bersendirian sejak dilaporkan hilang kira-kira jam 12 tengah hari kelmarin, selain sedikit calar di kaki dan kesan gigitan nyamuk di beberapa anggota badan, secara keseluruhan keadaan Nor Aishah sihat.
Namun, apa yang mencetuskan misteri ialah lokasi kanak-kanak itu ditemui iaitu dalam ladang getah di pinggir kampung berhampiran hutan dan kira-kira tiga kilometer dari rumah neneknya.
Malah, operasi mencari dan menyelamat yang disertai lebih 70 orang termasuk 25 anggota Jabatan Bomba dan Penyelamat Slim River yang diketuai Penolong Penguasa, Meor Mohd Ali Meor Husin, polis, penduduk kampung dengan dibantu unit anjing pengesan bomba, juga sudah mencari di sekitar kawasan berkenaan pada petang kelmarin, tapi gagal menemuinya.
Zamzanuri turut mengakui kehilangan anaknya itu agak misteri kerana lokasi kanak-kanak itu ditemui di tengah ladang getah berhampiran hutan dan jauh dari rumah penduduk.
“Apapun, saya anggap semua ini ketentuan Tuhan. Paling penting anak saya ditemui dalam keadaan selamat. Saya sangat bersyukur dan berterima kasih kepada semua pihak yang terbabit dalam operasi mencari sejak tengah hari semalam (kelmarin) dan berhajat mengadakan kenduri kesyukuran,” katanya.
Sementara itu, Timbalan Ketua Polis Ibu Pejabat Daerah (IPD) Tanjung Malim, Deputi Superintendan Anuar Osman ketika dihubungi mengesahkan kejadian itu.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
To eat or not to eat?
Over the holidays most of us will throw caution to the wind and indulge ourselves with foods and snacks that taste good but add to the waistline. A lot of us will gain half to one kg over the holidays but unfortunately only few will lose it all. Most of us will carry over some of the weight to the next holiday season and add to it year after year. Suddenly, we find our clothes don’t fit and the Internet BMI calculator tells us we are overweight!
Start to eat healthily by following these 10 simple steps.
Eat before you go outNever go out on an empty stomach. Eat a low calorie snack before you go out, fresh fruits are best. This way you are not starving yourself and are able to be choosy and select healthy, low calorie foods.
Breakfast a mustDon’t skip meals especially breakfast. Skipped meals slow the metabolism and result in nett weight gain.
Pick healthy snacksSnack foods that are fried, especially battered and fried tend to be very high in calories. Nuts and cheese are also snacks very high in fat and calories.
Focus on what you eatEat without distractions, without TV or computer. Focus on and enjoy your food. It is easier to finish a bag of chips while watching TV or surfing the net.
Eat white meatChoose lean proteins-white meat like chicken breast, fish, lean pork or tofu. These foods give protein without much animal fat (the wrong kind of saturated fats).
Don’t rushSlow down your meals. Enjoy your food and give your brain a chance to catch up with your stomach. Put your fork/chopsticks down between bites. Chew well.
Dress lightlyAvoid heavy sauces and dressings. There is no point in selecting low calorie foods and then smothering them with a high calorie sauce or dressing.
Adopt right buffet etiquetteAt a buffet: Be critical and selective.
•Look over the dishes and select the healthy choices.
•Be at the end of the line and most of the high calorie foods will be gone when your turn comes. You may be forced to eat the healthier foods.
•Sit as far away from the buffet table as possible. The further you need to walk, the lesser refills you will get.
•Do not face the buffet table. Sit with your back to it. Remember, ‘out of sight out of mind’.
•Use a smaller plate. The side plates are big enough for most people.
•Fill your plate with mostly salads and vegetables. They fill you up without loading you with calories.
Watch what you drinkAvoid/restrict liquid calories like fruit juices, sweet carbonated drinks and alcohol. These are empty calories. One coke a day will add on 20 kg over 10 years.
Walk it offWalk everywhere and try to get in two, half-hour brisk walks every day. Encourage your spouse and kids to join. It’s never too early or too late to learn good habits.
By Dr Koura Aaryan
*The writer is Senior Consultant at Tan Tock Seng Hospital’s Department of General Surgery.
Start to eat healthily by following these 10 simple steps.
Eat before you go outNever go out on an empty stomach. Eat a low calorie snack before you go out, fresh fruits are best. This way you are not starving yourself and are able to be choosy and select healthy, low calorie foods.
Breakfast a mustDon’t skip meals especially breakfast. Skipped meals slow the metabolism and result in nett weight gain.
Pick healthy snacksSnack foods that are fried, especially battered and fried tend to be very high in calories. Nuts and cheese are also snacks very high in fat and calories.
Focus on what you eatEat without distractions, without TV or computer. Focus on and enjoy your food. It is easier to finish a bag of chips while watching TV or surfing the net.
Eat white meatChoose lean proteins-white meat like chicken breast, fish, lean pork or tofu. These foods give protein without much animal fat (the wrong kind of saturated fats).
Don’t rushSlow down your meals. Enjoy your food and give your brain a chance to catch up with your stomach. Put your fork/chopsticks down between bites. Chew well.
Dress lightlyAvoid heavy sauces and dressings. There is no point in selecting low calorie foods and then smothering them with a high calorie sauce or dressing.
Adopt right buffet etiquetteAt a buffet: Be critical and selective.
•Look over the dishes and select the healthy choices.
•Be at the end of the line and most of the high calorie foods will be gone when your turn comes. You may be forced to eat the healthier foods.
•Sit as far away from the buffet table as possible. The further you need to walk, the lesser refills you will get.
•Do not face the buffet table. Sit with your back to it. Remember, ‘out of sight out of mind’.
•Use a smaller plate. The side plates are big enough for most people.
•Fill your plate with mostly salads and vegetables. They fill you up without loading you with calories.
Watch what you drinkAvoid/restrict liquid calories like fruit juices, sweet carbonated drinks and alcohol. These are empty calories. One coke a day will add on 20 kg over 10 years.
Walk it offWalk everywhere and try to get in two, half-hour brisk walks every day. Encourage your spouse and kids to join. It’s never too early or too late to learn good habits.
By Dr Koura Aaryan
*The writer is Senior Consultant at Tan Tock Seng Hospital’s Department of General Surgery.
Mak
Tersentuhnya baca cerita nih.....
Just to share with all of you, hari Ahad lepas, saya pergi ke majlis ilmu yg disampaikan oleh Ustaz Zahazan Mohamed (Ustaz yang selalu bagi tafsir Al Quran setiap hari Isnin - Jumaat di radio IKIM). Ustaz Zahazan bagi tau, ada tiga benda yang kita pandang akan mendapat pahala. Yang pertama, wajah ibubapa kita, yang kedua, Ka'abah dan yang ketiga, orang2 yg mua'lim. Subhanallah! senangnya nak dapat pahala dengan hanya memandang wajah mak bapak kita.
Selagi ada kesempatan, selagi ada hayat ibu bapa kita dan selagi kita masih bernafas lagi, pandanglah wajah mak ayah kita. Itulah wajah2 yang mengasihi kita seikhlas, sepenuh hati dan dengan penuh kasih sayang tanpa mengharap apa-apa balasan.
Aku dengan Mak tidak rapat. Mungkin sebab semasa aku kecil aku ni tomboy, tak reti meleseh dan aku suka membawa diri. I was a middle child and often found refuge in books ? if I wasn't up the tree or down in the drain. Aku tidak pernah ingat if aku pernah merajuk atau kecil hati semasa kecil.
Mak, was from the old school, kalau aku nakal atau menggelenyor( satu lagi perkataan Johor tak reti duduk diam / hyperactive ), zass akan dicubitnya peha aku. To show you just how hyperactive I was as a child :-aku pernah patah kedua-dua tangan aku before the age of six (different arms, different times) sebab jatuh kerusi dan basikal. Nak jadi orang circus, agaknya. Jari aku pun pernah tersepit kat pintu kereta, aku pernah pengsan sebab jatuh basikal semasa konvoi dengan kawan-kawan hingga dihantar pulang oleh a good Samaritan.
But, bila AKU marah ? aku pancit kereta bapa aku ! THAT I remember, and I was only five ! Kelam kabut orang tua tu lari ke luar rumah bila dia dengar bunyi tayar kereta go ssssssss?..but, dia tak marah kat aku. Apa lagi pukul aku. I was 5, remember? bukannya tahu apa lagi? (hhmmm.. sounds familiar? Macam what my Brood is doing to me.
What goes around COMES around!) Walaupun Mak was not demonstrative of her affections, aku tahu dia amat menyayangi anak-anaknya. Mungkin sebab dia sudah masak dengan perangai anak-anak dia yang dare devil, dia tidak mudah melatah dan sentiasa cool. Mungkin aku mewarisi sikap ini dari dia di dalam menghadapi kerenah anak-anak.
Disebabkan aku tomboy, maka seharusnya lah aku tidak suka perkara-perkara yang berkaitan dengan kewanitaan seperti memasak, menjahit, mekap, fesyen dan sewaktu dengannya. Mak relax jer. Tak de nak berleter kat aku suruh masuk dapur or pakai pakaian yang feminine.
Namun aku mula belajar memasak bila aku di Form One .itu pun masak jemput-jemput (cekodok to some of you). Aku bukan belajar dengan Mak tetapi dari rakan Girl Guides aku. Semasa camping, aku "heran" kawan-kawan sebaya aku terrer memasak. hatta hanya memasak sardin, lempeng dan jemput-jemput. Bila aku perhatikan mereka dan di rumah, aku cuba buat sendiri. Mak hanya bertanya : Ko belajar masak ni kat mana? Aku dengan bangganya menjawap " kat camping laa. Tulah Mak tak bagi kita pergi camping, kita belajar macam-macam kat situ "Mak was a housewife. Dia pandai memasak dan menjahit traits di mana, alas, tidak dapat diwarisi oleh anak perempuannya. Menjahit, I mean memasak tu, boleh lah setakat nak bagi orang makan. Mak tidak pernah menyuruh aku masuk dapur. if she needs help, dia akan tanya aku dulu, "kau tengah buat apa tu?" which, all of the time I was reading. "Membaca" I would reply, and that was the end of it. Mak tidak akan menganggu aku bila aku membaca.
Di waktu aku kecil, there were no washing machine , but we had a washerwoman yang datang tiap-tiap pagi untuk membasuh baju di rumah kami. When Mak had a baby, my Dad would arrange for a relative to stay with us to help with housework and cooking. I was too young (in their eyes) to be burdened with the housework. Aku cuma main dan belajar aje.
I stayed home until Form Five before I left for KL to continue my studies and subsequently working. Bila my Dad hantar aku ke bas stand untuk ke KL to start my job, he said, " Bila kau ada masa cuti, balik jengok Mak. Kalau ada duit lebih, bagi kat Mak sikit. Aku ni tak apa, tapi Mak tu, kau telefon-telefon lah dia " When I had my first gaji ,aku bawak Mak shopping. Serupalah macam iklan BCB tu. " Ambik, ambik SEMUA".Mak tersenyum aje. In subsequent years, aku akan membelikan Mak handbag, tudung, kain dan barang-barang yang dia suka. Since I was travelling in my job that time,aku sentiasa akan belikan souvenirs for her from wherever I went. Aku tahu Mak bangga dengan pemberian aku sebab aku pernah dengar Makcik-Makcik kat kampung during kenduri admiring her bag, her tudung and she proudly announced, " ni anak aku bagi ni ".
Semasa aku bersalinkan Abang , Mak helped care for me and the baby sampai habis pantang. Aku , habuk pun tak reti jaga budak. But, umur Mak tak lama. A few month selepas Abang dilahirkan, Mak was diagnosed with cancer. Malignant melanoma.
Mak was brought to KL for treatment because the type cancer was rare in Malaysia. Four months after Mak was first diagnosed, we were summoned by the doctor. The prognosis was not good. The cancer has spread to the lungs. "How long does she has, doctor ? " "Four months." the good doctor said quietly. My sister and me were stumped.
Both my parents were out in the ward, we were in one of the rooms."Maybe you would like to take her home, because old people would prefer to die at home. "DIE ?????Bila kami keluar dari bilik doctor, my sister went to talk with my Dad, while I went to see Mak.
"Apa doctor cakap?" Mak tanya. How, just HOW do you tell your mother that her days are numbered? I was not the touchy, feely type. I never hugged my mother. Salam and kiss her hands yes, but never hugged. But, at that moment ? I really, really wanted to hug her tight and tell her how much I loved her.But, I didn't. Mak would suspect something amiss if I do that.
"Er, doctor cakap kalau Mak nak balik rumah, boleh." She was happy. She missed home and all the cucu. Kids were not allowed in the ward, and all her cucu were under 12 (at that time).
"Er, doctor cakap kalau Mak nak balik rumah, boleh." She was happy. She missed home and all the cucu. Kids were not allowed in the ward, and all her cucu were under 12 (at that time).
"Bila kena datang sini lagi?" Mak tanya lagi.
"Nanti doctor bagitahu"
We never told her of what the doctor said. We never knew if our Dad ever did, because we never talked about death. Neither did she. Four months. How can you tell your mother how much you love her. How can you SHOW her what she meant to you in FOUR months. How can you make her happy in the last four months of her life?The dreaded months passed quickly. Four months came and she is still alive, albeit weaker and by then, bed ridden. All my siblings take turns to come and care for her.
Di sinilah aku nampak betapa mulianya seorang ibu yang disayangi dan disanjung oleh anak-anak. Pepatah mengatakan seorang ibu boleh menjaga sepuluh anak, but sepuluh anak belum tentu boleh jaga seorang ibu. My Dad sering mengingatkan, "setitis air mata ibu jatuh kerana hatinya terguris, boleh mengoncang tiang Arasy "I felt very blessed that Mak dapat merasai kasih sayang dari kami semua especially di akhir hayatnya..
The day came two months later. Mak was having trouble breathing my my Dad call us the children at 5 am. Bapak aku kata Mak nazak. Aku tengok nafas Mak shallow but she was still conscious. Mak kata, kaki dia sejuk. Aku picit dan gosok kaki Mak. My sisters duduk di kiri kanan Mak. Everybody is doing something for Mak. Bahagianya Mak aku tengok, di saat-saat akhirnya dikelilingi oleh anak-anak. Then azan subuh berkumandang. My Dad ajak Mak bersolat subuh. Kami pakaikan Mak wuduk dan telekung. We watched our parents menunaikan solat jemaah untuk kali yang terakhir dengan linangan air mata.
Selepas subuh, kami membaca Yaasiin. My Dad suruh Mak ikut dia mengucap syahadah. As I was seating di tepi kepala Mak, aku pangku Mak dan bisikkan di telinga Mak, "Mak, ikut saya ye. Ucap syahadah" Mak ikut. Aku peluk Mak dan bisikkan " Mak, ampunkan dosa saya dan halalkan air susu Mak" Mak menghembuskan nafasnya yang terakhir pada usia 59 tahun dan dikelilingi suami, sebahagian anak-anak dan cucu-cucu.
I was a young mother when Mak passed away. Abang only a year old. Walaupun zaman aku berbeza dengan zaman Mak tetapi foundationnya tetap sama. Kasih sayang. Keikhlasan. Tanggungjawap.
Tiga factor yang pada aku amat penting di dalam peranan seorang ibu. Kasih sayang yang tidak berbelah bagi (unconditional love), keikhlasan hati sebagai ibu terhadap anak-anak dan tanggungjawap yang diberikan Tuhan kepada amanahnya.
To me these three basic foundation aku cuba terapkan sebaik mungkin sambil gunakan ilmu keibubapaan yang aku pelajari dan perhatikan bersesuaian dengan zaman dan keadaan. Pengalaman aku sebagai anak juga banyak membantu di dalam peranan aku sebagai ibu. I am not a perfect person, what more a perfect parent. I have always enjoyed my childhoodand would love my children to have the same happiness as I did. But, God has His plans for me and my Brood.
All the dugaan that He gave has made us stronger and more appreciative of what we STILL have. EACH OTHER. In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.
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