Mak

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Just to share with all of you, hari Ahad lepas, saya pergi ke majlis ilmu yg disampaikan oleh Ustaz Zahazan Mohamed (Ustaz yang selalu bagi tafsir Al Quran setiap hari Isnin - Jumaat di radio IKIM). Ustaz Zahazan bagi tau, ada tiga benda yang kita pandang akan mendapat pahala. Yang pertama, wajah ibubapa kita, yang kedua, Ka'abah dan yang ketiga, orang2 yg mua'lim. Subhanallah! senangnya nak dapat pahala dengan hanya memandang wajah mak bapak kita.

Selagi ada kesempatan, selagi ada hayat ibu bapa kita dan selagi kita masih bernafas lagi, pandanglah wajah mak ayah kita. Itulah wajah2 yang mengasihi kita seikhlas, sepenuh hati dan dengan penuh kasih sayang tanpa mengharap apa-apa balasan.

Aku dengan Mak tidak rapat. Mungkin sebab semasa aku kecil aku ni tomboy, tak reti meleseh dan aku suka membawa diri. I was a middle child and often found refuge in books ? if I wasn't up the tree or down in the drain. Aku tidak pernah ingat if aku pernah merajuk atau kecil hati semasa kecil.

Mak, was from the old school, kalau aku nakal atau menggelenyor( satu lagi perkataan Johor tak reti duduk diam / hyperactive ), zass akan dicubitnya peha aku. To show you just how hyperactive I was as a child :-aku pernah patah kedua-dua tangan aku before the age of six (different arms, different times) sebab jatuh kerusi dan basikal. Nak jadi orang circus, agaknya. Jari aku pun pernah tersepit kat pintu kereta, aku pernah pengsan sebab jatuh basikal semasa konvoi dengan kawan-kawan hingga dihantar pulang oleh a good Samaritan.

But, bila AKU marah ? aku pancit kereta bapa aku ! THAT I remember, and I was only five ! Kelam kabut orang tua tu lari ke luar rumah bila dia dengar bunyi tayar kereta go ssssssss?..but, dia tak marah kat aku. Apa lagi pukul aku. I was 5, remember? bukannya tahu apa lagi? (hhmmm.. sounds familiar? Macam what my Brood is doing to me.

What goes around COMES around!) Walaupun Mak was not demonstrative of her affections, aku tahu dia amat menyayangi anak-anaknya. Mungkin sebab dia sudah masak dengan perangai anak-anak dia yang dare devil, dia tidak mudah melatah dan sentiasa cool. Mungkin aku mewarisi sikap ini dari dia di dalam menghadapi kerenah anak-anak.

Disebabkan aku tomboy, maka seharusnya lah aku tidak suka perkara-perkara yang berkaitan dengan kewanitaan seperti memasak, menjahit, mekap, fesyen dan sewaktu dengannya. Mak relax jer. Tak de nak berleter kat aku suruh masuk dapur or pakai pakaian yang feminine.

Namun aku mula belajar memasak bila aku di Form One .itu pun masak jemput-jemput (cekodok to some of you). Aku bukan belajar dengan Mak tetapi dari rakan Girl Guides aku. Semasa camping, aku "heran" kawan-kawan sebaya aku terrer memasak. hatta hanya memasak sardin, lempeng dan jemput-jemput. Bila aku perhatikan mereka dan di rumah, aku cuba buat sendiri. Mak hanya bertanya : Ko belajar masak ni kat mana? Aku dengan bangganya menjawap " kat camping laa. Tulah Mak tak bagi kita pergi camping, kita belajar macam-macam kat situ "Mak was a housewife. Dia pandai memasak dan menjahit traits di mana, alas, tidak dapat diwarisi oleh anak perempuannya. Menjahit, I mean memasak tu, boleh lah setakat nak bagi orang makan. Mak tidak pernah menyuruh aku masuk dapur. if she needs help, dia akan tanya aku dulu, "kau tengah buat apa tu?" which, all of the time I was reading. "Membaca" I would reply, and that was the end of it. Mak tidak akan menganggu aku bila aku membaca.

Di waktu aku kecil, there were no washing machine , but we had a washerwoman yang datang tiap-tiap pagi untuk membasuh baju di rumah kami. When Mak had a baby, my Dad would arrange for a relative to stay with us to help with housework and cooking. I was too young (in their eyes) to be burdened with the housework. Aku cuma main dan belajar aje.

I stayed home until Form Five before I left for KL to continue my studies and subsequently working. Bila my Dad hantar aku ke bas stand untuk ke KL to start my job, he said, " Bila kau ada masa cuti, balik jengok Mak. Kalau ada duit lebih, bagi kat Mak sikit. Aku ni tak apa, tapi Mak tu, kau telefon-telefon lah dia " When I had my first gaji ,aku bawak Mak shopping. Serupalah macam iklan BCB tu. " Ambik, ambik SEMUA".Mak tersenyum aje. In subsequent years, aku akan membelikan Mak handbag, tudung, kain dan barang-barang yang dia suka. Since I was travelling in my job that time,aku sentiasa akan belikan souvenirs for her from wherever I went. Aku tahu Mak bangga dengan pemberian aku sebab aku pernah dengar Makcik-Makcik kat kampung during kenduri admiring her bag, her tudung and she proudly announced, " ni anak aku bagi ni ".

Semasa aku bersalinkan Abang , Mak helped care for me and the baby sampai habis pantang. Aku , habuk pun tak reti jaga budak. But, umur Mak tak lama. A few month selepas Abang dilahirkan, Mak was diagnosed with cancer. Malignant melanoma.

Mak was brought to KL for treatment because the type cancer was rare in Malaysia. Four months after Mak was first diagnosed, we were summoned by the doctor. The prognosis was not good. The cancer has spread to the lungs. "How long does she has, doctor ? " "Four months." the good doctor said quietly. My sister and me were stumped.

Both my parents were out in the ward, we were in one of the rooms."Maybe you would like to take her home, because old people would prefer to die at home. "DIE ?????Bila kami keluar dari bilik doctor, my sister went to talk with my Dad, while I went to see Mak.

"Apa doctor cakap?" Mak tanya. How, just HOW do you tell your mother that her days are numbered? I was not the touchy, feely type. I never hugged my mother. Salam and kiss her hands yes, but never hugged. But, at that moment ? I really, really wanted to hug her tight and tell her how much I loved her.But, I didn't. Mak would suspect something amiss if I do that.
"Er, doctor cakap kalau Mak nak balik rumah, boleh." She was happy. She missed home and all the cucu. Kids were not allowed in the ward, and all her cucu were under 12 (at that time).

"Bila kena datang sini lagi?" Mak tanya lagi.

"Nanti doctor bagitahu"

We never told her of what the doctor said. We never knew if our Dad ever did, because we never talked about death. Neither did she. Four months. How can you tell your mother how much you love her. How can you SHOW her what she meant to you in FOUR months. How can you make her happy in the last four months of her life?The dreaded months passed quickly. Four months came and she is still alive, albeit weaker and by then, bed ridden. All my siblings take turns to come and care for her.

Di sinilah aku nampak betapa mulianya seorang ibu yang disayangi dan disanjung oleh anak-anak. Pepatah mengatakan seorang ibu boleh menjaga sepuluh anak, but sepuluh anak belum tentu boleh jaga seorang ibu. My Dad sering mengingatkan, "setitis air mata ibu jatuh kerana hatinya terguris, boleh mengoncang tiang Arasy "I felt very blessed that Mak dapat merasai kasih sayang dari kami semua especially di akhir hayatnya..

The day came two months later. Mak was having trouble breathing my my Dad call us the children at 5 am. Bapak aku kata Mak nazak. Aku tengok nafas Mak shallow but she was still conscious. Mak kata, kaki dia sejuk. Aku picit dan gosok kaki Mak. My sisters duduk di kiri kanan Mak. Everybody is doing something for Mak. Bahagianya Mak aku tengok, di saat-saat akhirnya dikelilingi oleh anak-anak. Then azan subuh berkumandang. My Dad ajak Mak bersolat subuh. Kami pakaikan Mak wuduk dan telekung. We watched our parents menunaikan solat jemaah untuk kali yang terakhir dengan linangan air mata.

Selepas subuh, kami membaca Yaasiin. My Dad suruh Mak ikut dia mengucap syahadah. As I was seating di tepi kepala Mak, aku pangku Mak dan bisikkan di telinga Mak, "Mak, ikut saya ye. Ucap syahadah" Mak ikut. Aku peluk Mak dan bisikkan " Mak, ampunkan dosa saya dan halalkan air susu Mak" Mak menghembuskan nafasnya yang terakhir pada usia 59 tahun dan dikelilingi suami, sebahagian anak-anak dan cucu-cucu.

I was a young mother when Mak passed away. Abang only a year old. Walaupun zaman aku berbeza dengan zaman Mak tetapi foundationnya tetap sama. Kasih sayang. Keikhlasan. Tanggungjawap.

Tiga factor yang pada aku amat penting di dalam peranan seorang ibu. Kasih sayang yang tidak berbelah bagi (unconditional love), keikhlasan hati sebagai ibu terhadap anak-anak dan tanggungjawap yang diberikan Tuhan kepada amanahnya.

To me these three basic foundation aku cuba terapkan sebaik mungkin sambil gunakan ilmu keibubapaan yang aku pelajari dan perhatikan bersesuaian dengan zaman dan keadaan. Pengalaman aku sebagai anak juga banyak membantu di dalam peranan aku sebagai ibu. I am not a perfect person, what more a perfect parent. I have always enjoyed my childhoodand would love my children to have the same happiness as I did. But, God has His plans for me and my Brood.

All the dugaan that He gave has made us stronger and more appreciative of what we STILL have. EACH OTHER. In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.

Kisah Penjual Tempe..

Salam untuk semua.. pagi nie ada kelapangan sedikit untuk membuka email.. ada satu cerita yang dipostkan oleh rakan blog Ustazmuda yang boleh dijadikan iktibar untuk semua.. InsyaAllah..

Ada sebuah kampung di pedalaman Tanah Jawa. Disitu ada seorang perempuan tua yang sangat kuat beribadat. Pekerjaannya ialah membuat tempe dan menjualnya di pasar setiap hari. Ia merupakan satu-satunya sumber pendapatannya untuk menyara hidup. Tempe yang dijualnya merupakan tempe yang dibuatnya sendiri.

Pada suatu pagi, seperti biasa, ketika beliau sedang bersiap-siap untuk pergi menjual tempenya, tiba tiba dia tersedar tempenya yang diperbuat daripada kacang soya hari itu masih belum menjadi, separuh jadi.Kebiasaannya tempe beliau telah masak sebelum bertolak. Diperiksanya beberapa bungkusan yang lain. Ternyatalah kesemuanya belum masak lagi.

Perempuan tua itu berasa amat sedih sebab tempe yang masih belum menjadi pastinya tidak akan laku dan tiadalah rezekinya pada hari itu. Dalam suasana hatinya yang sedih, dia yang memang kuat beribadah teringat akan firman Allah yang menyatakan bahawa Allah dapat melakukan perkara-perkara ajaib, bahawa bagiNya tiada yang mustahil. Lalu diapun mengangkat kedua tangannya sambil berdoa ,
"Ya Allah , aku memohon kepadaMu agar kacang soya ini menjadi tempe . Amin"

Begitulah doa ringkas yang dipanjatkan dengan sepenuh hatinya. Dia sangat yakin bahawa Allah pasti mengabulkan doanya. Dengan tenang perempuan tua itu menekan-nekan bungkusan bakal tempe dengan hujung jarinya dan dia pun membuka sikit bungkusan itu untuk menyaksikan keajaiban kacang soya itu menjadi tempe . Namun, dia termenung seketika sebab kacang tu masih tetap kacang soya.

Namun dia tidak putus asa, sebaliknya berfikir mungkin doanya kurang jelas didengar oleh Allah. Maka dia pun mengangkat kedua tangannya semula dan berdoa lagi.

"Ya Allah, aku tahu bahawa tiada yang mustahil bagiMu. Bantu lah aku supaya hari ini aku dapat menjual tempe kerana inilah mata pencarianku. Aku mohon agar jadikanlah kacang soyaku ini kepada tempe , Amin".

Dengan penuh harapan dan debaran dia pun sekali lagi membuka sedikit bungkusan tu. Apakah yang terjadi? Dia termangu dan hairan apabila tempenya masih tetap begitu!! Sementara itu hari pun semakin meninggi sudah tentu pasar sudah mula didatangi ramai orang. Dia tetap tidak kecewa atas doanya yang belum terkabul. Walaubagaimanapun kerana keyakinannya yg sangat tinggi dia bercadang untuk tetap pergi ke pasar membawa barang jualannya itu. Perempuan tua itu pun berserah pada Tuhan dan meneruskan pemergian ke pasar sambil berdoa dengan harapan apabila sampai di pasar kesemua tempenya akan masak.

Dia berfikir mungkin keajaiban Allah akan terjadi semasa perjalanannya ke pasar. Sebelum keluar dari rumah, dia sempat mengangkat kedua tangannya untuk berdoa.

"Ya Allah, aku percaya, Engkau akan mengabulkan doaku. Sementara aku berjalan menuju ke pasar, Engkau kurniakanlah keajaiban ini buatku, jadikanlah tempe ini. Amin".

Lalu dia pun berangkat di sepanjang perjalanan dia tetap tidak lupa membaca doa di dalam hatinya. Sesampai sahaja di pasar, segera dia meletakkan barang-barangnya. Hatinya betul-betul yakin yang tempenya sekarang mesti sudah menjadi. Dengan hati yg berdebar-debar dia pun membuka bakulnya dan menekan-nekan dengan jarinya setiap bungkusan tempe yang ada.

Perlahan-lahan dia membuka sedikit daun pembungkusnya dan melihat isinya. Apa yang terjadi? Tempenya masih belum menjadi!! Dia pun kaget seketika lalu menarik nafas dalam-dalam. Dalam hatinya sudah mula merasa sedikit kecewa dan putus asa kepada Allah kerana doanya tidak dikabulkan. Dia berasakan Tuhan tidak adil. Tuhan tidak kasihan padanya, inilahsatu-satunya punca rezekinya, hasil jualan tempe . Dia akhirnya cuma
duduk sahaja tanpa mempamerkan barang jualannya sebab dia berasakan bahawa tiada orang yang akan membeli tempe yang baru separuh menjadi.Sementara itu hari pun semakin petang dan pasar sudah mulai sepi, para pembeli sudah mula kurang.

Dia meninjau-ninjau kawan-kawan sesama penjual tempe, tempe mereka sudah hampir habis. Dia tertunduk lesu seperti tidak sanggup menghadapi kenyataan bahawa hari ini tiada hasil jualan yang boleh dibawa pulang. Namun jauh di sudut hatinya masih menaruh harapan terakhir kepada Allah, pasti Allah akan menolongnya. Walaupun dia tahu bahawa pada hari itu dia tidak akan dapat pendapatan langsung, namun dia tetap berdoa buat kali terakhir,
"Ya Allah,berikanlah penyelesaian terbaik terhadap tempeku yang belum menjadi ini."

Tiba-tiba dia dikejutkan dengan teguran seorang wanita. "Maaf ya, saya ingin bertanya, Makcik ada tak menjual tempe yang belum menjadi? Dari tadi saya sudah pusing keliling pasar ini untuk mencarinya tapi masih belum berjumpa lagi." Dia termenung dan terpinga-pinga seketika. Hatinya terkejut sebab sejak berpuluh tahun menjual tempe, tidak pernah seorang pun pelanggannya mencari tempe yang belum menjadi. Sebelum dia menjawab sapaan wanita di depannya itu, cepat-cepat dia berdoa di dalam hatinya
"Ya Allah, saat ini aku tidak mahu tempe ini menjadi lagi. Biarlah tempe ini seperti semula, Amin".

Sebelum dia menjawab pertanyaan wanita itu, dia membuka sedikit daun penutup tempenya. Alangkah seronoknya dia, ternyata memang benar tempenya masih belum menjadi! Dia pun ra sa gembira dalam hatinya dan bersyukur pada Allah. Wanita itu pun memborong habis kesemua tempenya yang belum menjadi itu. Sebelum wanita tu pergi, dia sempat bertanya wanita itu, "Mengapa hendak membeli tempe yang belum jadi?" Wanita itu menerangkan bahawa anakn ya yang kini berada di England teringin makan tempe dari desa. Memandangkan tempe itu akan dikirimkan ke England ,si ibu tadi kenalah membeli tempe yang belum jadi lagi supaya apabila sampai di England nanti akan menjadi tempe yang sempurna. Kalau dikirimkan tempe yang sudah menjadi, nanti di sana tempe itu sudah tidak elok lagi dan rasanya pun kurang sedap. Perempuan tua itu pun kehairanan dan berfikir rupa-rupanya doanya sudah pun dimakbulkan oleh Tuhan...

Moral:

Pertama: Kita sering memaksakan kehendak kita kepada Tuhan sewaktu berdoa, padahal sebenarnya Tuhan lebih mengetahui apa yang kita perlukan dan apa yang terbaik untuk diri kita.

Kedua: Sentiasalah berdoa dalam menjalani kehidupan seharian kita sebagai hambaNya yang lemah. Jangan sekali-kali berputus asa terhadap apa yang dipinta. Percayalah bahawa Tuhan akan mengabulkan doa kita sesuai dengan rancanganNya yang mungkin di luar jangkaan kita.

Ketiga : Tiada yang mustahil bagi Tuhan

Keempat : Kita sering ingin Allah memenuhi hak kita sedang kita tidak pernah mahu memenuhi hak Allah seperti menjaga SEMBAHYANG 5 WAKTU ,menyegerakan solat, berkata-kata perkara yang berfaedah dan berpesan ke arah kebaikan...oleh itu, hantarlah kepada sahabat yang lain agar kebaikan boleh sama dikongsi. Mudah-mudahan Allah suka dengan apa yang kita buat( ",) ..

Saat Ditalkinkan...

Sebak dada bila membaca email ni....but its good ...... Semoga kita insaf dan menjadi pelajaran. InsyaAllah...

Hari berganti hari.Keadaanku semakin tenat.Tubuhku terkaku seperti mayat di atas katil di salah sebuah hospital yang aku sendiri tidak tahu mengapa aku di tempatkan di sini.Sebelum tu, yang aku ingat aku sedang memandu kereta ayah,lalu bertembung dengan lori balak.Tapi selepas itu aku tidak ingat apa-apa.Pandanganku kabur.Tidak dapat ku pastikan siapa orang-orang yang berada di sekelilingku.Aku terasa dada ku teramat berat dan bahagian pinggangku sudah tidak berasa apa-apa lagi.Derita sungguh nafasku sesak. Tiba-tiba tanganku di pegang kuat.

"Mengucap sayang mengucap....Asyhaduallailahaillallah........."ucapan itu dibisikkan ke telingaku di sertai dengan tangisan.Itu suara ibu, manusia yang pernah mendodoikan daku semasa kecil,manusia yang pernah menyuapkan nasi ke dalam mulutku,manusia yang pernah memberi susunya serta yang pernah merotanku kerana degil.

"Bagaimana dengan keadaannya doktor?" Aku amati suara itu. Pasti itu suara abang. Mungkin abang baru sampai. "Tenat",jawab doktor dengan ringkas. "Itu kata doktor bang,jangan berserah kepada takdir sahaja.Kita perlu usaha".

Sudah seminggu aku terlantar di wad ini,kenapa baru sekarang abang menjengah? datang lah ke sini,aku ingin berbicara denganmu.

datanglah.....

Tapi mataku.......semakin gelap.Adakah aku sudah buta? Tidak!!!!Aku tidak mahu buta.Aku masih ingin melihat dunia ini.

"Sabarlah dik,banyak-banyak ingatkan Allah."Abangkah yang bersuara itu?

Apa yang aku tanggung ini tidak semudah yang kau lafazkan, abang.Tolonglah adikmu ini.Tolong bukakan mataku.

"Tekanan darahnya amat rendah". sayup sayap kedengaran suara doktor.Kedengaran juga ibu menangis teresak-esak.Ibu,kau hanya mampu menangis saja.dan bila tiba saatnya,kita akan berpisah.Tapi,ibu.....aku tidak mahu berpisah denganmu.Tolonglah ibu,selamatkan lah daku.

"Yassin......".bacaan yassin terngiyang-ngiyang di telingaku.Aku tahu itu suara abang.Tetapi kenapa aku di perdengarkan dengan suara itu??? Apakah aku sudah menghampiri maut???????Aku takut!!!!!!!

Sedetik lagi sakaratul maut datang.Sedetik lagi izrail datang. Sedetik lagi malaikat maut dtang.Aku di ambang sakaratul maut...... Aku semakin tegang dan semakin sendat nafas di dada. Ketika itu,aku tidak ingat apa-apa lagi. Aku tidak kenal sesiapa di sekelilingku. Tapi yang pastinya sekarang, aku berdepan dengan sakaratul maut. "Tolong ibu tolonglah aku, aku takut".Tapi rintihan ku tidak di pedulikan.Apa mereka semua sudah pekak?

Aku di lambung resah,gelisah dan penuh kesah.Keluhan dan rintihan.

"Panas,dahaga,haus,panas........".tapi tiada siapa pun yang peduli.

Nenekku datang,"Nenek...........".

"Kau dahaga cu,kau lapar cu,mahu air??Ini gelas penuh air madu,kalau cucu mahu masuk syurga,minum air ini".

"Ibu......". Ibuku datang, Ibu menggoyangkan buah susunya.

" Ini ibumu. Air susu ini membesarkanmu, nak.Buangkan islam, matilah dalam agama yahudi.....".

Ayah.......kau datang ayah.......".

"Matilah dalam agama yahudi anakku. matilah dalam agama nasrani Itulah agama yang membantu kau masuk ke syurga".

"Nenek....ibu.....ayah......suara kau kah tadi?? Kenapa kau berubahlaku?? Atau suara syaitan yang ingin memurtadkan aku??

"Mengucap sayang, mengucap.Asyhaduallailahaillallah......". Ucapan itu diajukan sekali lagi ke telingaku.Itu suara ibu. Tapi lidahku sudah menjadi kelu.

Manusia-manusia berjubah hitam datang."Mari ikut kami". Manusia-manusia berjubah hijau datang membawa bersamanya payung hijau, katanya "Mari ikut kami". Cahaya putih datang. Datang kilatan hitam. Datang sinaran kuning.Cahaya merah datang.

"Apa ini,apa ini?.Akulah sakaratul maut.......!!!!!!".

Kedinginan menjalar,merayap perlahan-lahan dari hujung kaki ke hujung rambut dan kini seluruh jasadku di selimuti sejuk dan kemudian datanglah malaikat maut di hujung kepalaku.

"Hai jiwa yang keji,keluarlah dari kemurkaan Allah.......". Aku tersentak. Roh ku berselerak di dalam tubuhku. Lalu,innalillahi wainnailaihi rajiuun....

Malaikat-malaikat yang menunggu sesayup mata memandang dan menghemburlah bangkai yang sebusuk-busuknya.

Tiba-tiba bau busuk menusuk ke hidungku,seperti bau sampah yang amat busuk.

"Apa yang busuk ni? Tak adakah orang yang mengangkat sampah hari ini? Ah,busuknya, hanyirnya, hancingnya......".

"Assalamualaikum......".
"Siapa yang memberi salam itu?".
"Aku".
"Kau siapa wahai pemuda???".
Seorang lelaki tercegat di hadapan katilku. Aku tidak pernah melihat orang yang sehodoh, sekotor,dan sebusuknya di dunia ini, rambutnya yang tidak terurus,baju yang di pakai berlumut hijau, kuning, coklat dan entah apa-apa warna lagi, dari lubang hidung,telinganya dan mulutnya terdapat nanah dan darah pekat keluar. Tanpa di pedulikannya......jijik, loya, aku rasa........teramat loya melihatnya.

"Kau tak kenal aku?".
"Tidak,jawabku tegas.Mana mungkin aku kenal kau sehodoh dan sejijik ini".
"Aku sahabatmu, kau yang membuat aku hari-hari".
"Bohong!". Aku menjerit sekuat hati. Biar semua penghuni wad ini mendengarnya.
"Aku tak kenal engkau!Lebih baik kau pergi dari sini".
"Akulah amalanmu yang keji..........".
Aku terdiam.Aku tidak mampu berkata apa-apa lagi.Ya! aku teringat kini, semuanya telah pernah ku dengar dan ku pelajari dulu. Segala dosa dan keburukan yang kita lakukan di dunia,akan di jelmakan dalam sebagai suatu makhluk yang teramat hodoh di hadapan kita di alam barzakh nanti.

Oh!Tuhan,aku banyak dosa. Aku memang lalai,cuai dan lupa dengan segala nikmat yang telah kau kurniakan.Solatku kerana kawan, dan bukannya khlas kerana Allah. Pergaulanku bebas,tak kenal muhrim ataupun tidak. Tapi itu semua telah berlalu dan dan sudah terlambat untuk bertaubat. Apa yang aku harus lakukan!!!!!


Surah yassin yang abang pegang di letakkan di atas dahiku. Aku melihat kak long dan kak ngah menangis. Aku juga lihat mata abah bengkak.

Tiba-tiba badanku di sirami air.Air apa ini?????
"Tolong....sejuk!!!!Kenapa air ini berbau air kapur barus. Tolong jangan tekan perutku dengan kuat, sakit!!!!Kenapa ramai orang melihat aku???

Aku malu.....malu.....malu......!!!!!!".

Aku di usung ke suatu ruang. Aku lihat kain putih dibentangkan. Lalu diletakkannya aku di atas kain putih itu. Kapas di bubuh di celah-celah badanku. Lalu aku di bungkus satu demi satu dengan kain itu.

"Nanti,tunggu!!jangan bungkus aku.Kenapa kalian semua buat aku macam ini? Tolong rimas....panas........".

Kemudian aku di letakkan di suatu sudut. Beberapa orang termasuk tok imam menyembahyangkanku.Kelihatan ayah dan abang berada di saf yang pertama. Tapi kenapa aku di sembahyangkan? Bukan kah aku boleh sembahyang sendiri?

Aku teringat kata-kata ustazku dahulu.
"Sembahyanglah kamu sebelum kamu disembahyangkan".Dan kini baru aku sedar aku sudah tidak mampu lagi untuk mengangkat takbir, ruku', sujud dan tahiyyat.

Aku di angkat perlahan-lahan kemudian di letakkan di dalam kotak kayu.
“Kotak apa ini?" Aku di usung oleh enam orang termasuk ayah dan abang. Aku diusung setapak demi setapak".

"Al-Fatihah!" Keengaran suara tok imam.Kelihatan ibu, kak long, kak ngah dan lain-lain mengekori di belakang. Tapi kemana dia bawanya aku?".

Nun jauh di sana, kelihatan tanah perkuburan kampungku.
"Ke situkah aku dibawanya? Tolong turunkan aku,aku takut!!!!!!".
Setibanya di tanah perkuburan, kelihatan satu liang yang besaiz dengan jasadku. Beberapa tangan memegangku, dan aku di turunkan ke dalam liang itu.

"Perlahan-lahan",aku terdengar suara tok imam memberitahu. "Tolong keluarkan aku dari sini! Aku seram!!!".Kini aku berada di dalam liang sedalam enam kaki. Sedikit demi sedikit pasir dan tanah menutupiku.
"Tanah apa ini?".
"Aduh sakitnya badanku di timbusi tanah".
"Innalillahiwa innailaihi rajiuuun.......Dari Allah kita datang,dan kepada Allah jualah kita kembali".
Kedengaran bacaan talkin dari tok imam."Sesungguhnya mati itu benar alam barzakh itu benar, siratul mustaqim itu benar, syurga dan neraka itu jua benar........".Sayup sayap aku terdengar tok imam terus membaca talkin,tetapi makin lama makin hilang. Pandanganku makin lama, makin kabur dan terus tidak kelihatan. Tubuhku terasa telah di timbusi sedikit demi sdikit pasir dan tanah yang di lemparkan ke atasku. Terasa semakin gelap dan......aku kini keseorangan.

"Nanti!Nanti!Tolong!Tolong ayah,ibu!Jangan tinggalkan aku seorang. Aku takut!!!Gelap!!!Panas!!!Tolong !!!!

THIS IS A GOOD STORY BUT THE AUTHOR LEFT OUT ONE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN DEATH.....

"SAKITNYA SAKRATUL MAUT ITU ADALAH UMPAMA SERIBU PEDANG YANG AMAT TAJAM MENGHIRIS DAGING DAN TULANG SERENTAK...DAN SAKITNYA HINGGA KE AKHIRAT."

Kenangan itu kadangkala teramat pahit untuk diredah, tetapi ia
Terlalu manis untuk dikenang.

Hidup tak selalunya indah tapi yang indah itu tetap hidup dalam kenangan.

Andainya hadirnya cinta sekadar untuk mengecewakan, lebih baik cinta itu tak pernah hadir.

Kecewa bercinta bukan bermakna dunia sudah berakhir. Masa depan yang cerah berdasarkan pada masa lalu yang telah dilupakan. Hidup ini indah jika kita tahu menghargainya... Tapi ia amat menyakitkan andai kita melaluinya sambil lewa...

Ten things Allah Won't Ask..

Last week aku tak berapa sihat, tapi malas nak jumpa doktor. Tau2 hari isnin rasa panas badan, dah le kerja tengah menimbun.. badan lak tak sihat..

apa lagi pepagi senin tu terus mengadap doktor.. dah sah2 suhu badan aku tinggi.. dapat le mc 2 ari.. doktor suruh rest.. aku nak cakap happy pun idak nak cakap sedih pun idak.. kerja kat opis banyakkkk.. sapo nak buek ehh.. takpe lah.. dari aku dok opis buat kerja tak betul, baik aku dok umah rest..

lepas dok umah kenkununnya sakit dan tak buat apa2.. badan aku jadik bertambah lemau (lemah2).. aku rasa lepas nie aku takmo amik cuti ke mc ke tanpa buat apa2.. rasa rugi besar sangat.. aku lak punya le lurus bendol.. duduk umah je.. bukan nak keluar jalan2 carik makan ke.. pi window shopping ke.. takde le aku rasa useless sangat.. :D

Ten things Allah won't ask:

1... Allah won't ask what kind of car you drove; He'll ask how many people you drove who didn't have transportation.

2...Allah won't ask the square footage of your house, He'll ask how many people you welcomed into your home.

3...Allah won't ask about the clothes you had in your closet, He'll ask how many you helped to clothe.

4... Allah won't ask what your highest salary was; He'll ask if you compromised your character to obtain it.

5...Allah won't ask what your job title was; He'll ask if you performed your job to the best of your ability.

6...Allah won't ask how many friends you had, He'll ask how many people to whom you were a friends

7...Allah won't ask in what neighborhood you lived, He'll ask how you treated your neighbors.

8...Allah won't ask about the color of your skin, He'll ask about the content of your character.

9...Allah won't ask why it took you so long to seek Salvation; He'll lovingly take you to your mansion in heaven, and not to the gates of Hell.

10...Allah won't ask how many people you forwarded this to; He'll ask if you were ashamed to pass it on to your friends.

Bananas... This is very interesting.

Bananas. Containing three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose
combined with fiber, a banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial
boost of energy.

Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a
strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit
with the world's leading athletes.

But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also
help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions,
making it a must to add to our daily diet.

Depression: According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people
suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana.
This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body
converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and
generally make you feel happier. PMS: Forget the pills - eat a banana. The
vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.

Anemia: High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of haemoglobin in
the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure: This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium
yet low in salt, making it the perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so,
the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to
make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood
pressure and stroke.

Brain Power: 200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped
through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and
lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the
potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation: High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore
normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers: One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana
milkshake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and, with the
help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk
soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Heartburn: Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you
suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness: Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood
sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.

Mosquito bites: Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the
affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it
amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves: Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Overweight and at work? Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria
found pressure at work leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and
crisps. Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese
were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs. The report concluded that, to
avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels
by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady.

Ulcers: The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders
because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that
can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also
neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

Temperature control: Many other cultures see bananas as a "cooling" fruit
that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant
mothers. In Thailand, for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Bananas can help SAD sufferers because
they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.

Smoking: Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking. The B6, B12
they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help
the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.

Stress: Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat,
sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we
are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium
levels. These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.

Strokes: According to research in "The New England Journal of Medicine,
"eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by
strokes by as much as 40%!

Warts: Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off
a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the
yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it
to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three
times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals.
It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around.

So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so
that we say, "A banana a day keeps the doctor away!"

Air- Jenazaah...heard of it, yet to travel, surely once in our l ifetime

Fly Air-Janaazah

1.When we are leaving this world for the next, it shall be like a trip to a foreign country. Where details of that country will not be found in glamorous travel brochures the Holy Quran and Hadith.

2.Where our plane won't be British Airways, Gulf Air, Singapore Airlines or Emirates but Air Janaazah.

3.Where our luggage won't be allowed to be 30kg, but our deeds, no matter how heavy they weigh. You don't pay for excess luggage, they are carried free of charge, with compliments from our Creator.

4.Where our dress won't be Pierre Cardin or the like, but the white cotton shroud.

5.Where our perfume won't be Channel or Paco Rabane, but camphor and attar.

6.Where our passport won't be Singapore, British or India but Al-Islam.

7.Where our visas won't be six months leave to stay or else,but Laa Ilaaha Illalah Muhammadur Rasool Allah.

8.Where our air hostess won't be gorgeous female, but his name is Izra-eel.

9.Where the in flight service won't be 1st class or economy but a piece of beautiful scented or foul smelling cloth.

10.Where our destination won't be Jeddah International or Chennai Airport but the last terminal graveyard.

11.Where our waiting lounge won't be nice carpeted and air-conditioned rooms, but the six- feet deep gloomy qabr.

12.Where the immigration officer won't be his Majesty's officer but Munkar and Nakeer. They only check out whether you deserve the place, you yearn to go.

13.Where there is no need for custom officers or detectors.

14.Where the transit airport will be Al-Barzakh.

15.Where our final place of destination will either be the garden under which river flow or the hell fire.

16.The trip does not come with a price tag. It is free of charge so your Savings would not come handy.

17.The flight can never be hijacked, so you don't worry about terrorist.

18.Food won't be served on this flight, so do not worry about allergies or whether the food is Halal.

19.Do not worry about legroom; you won't need it, as it will become things of the past.

20. Don't worry about delays. This flight is always punctual. It arrives and leaves on time.

21.Don't worry about in-flight entertainment program because you would have lost all your sense of joy.

22.Do not worry about booking this trip it has already been booked(return ticket) the day you became a fetus in your mother's womb.

23.At last the good news! Do not worry about who will be sitting next to you. You will have the luxury of being the only passenger.

Something to share..

An old American Muslim lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern

Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early

sitting at the kitchen table reading his Quraan .

His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in

every way he could. One day the grandson asked, "Papa, I try to read

the Quraan just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do

understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does

reading the Quraan do?"

The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and

replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a

basket of water." The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked

out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and

said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him

back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran

faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of

breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water

in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead.

The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of

water. You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door

to watch the boy try again.

At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show

his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water

would leak out before he got back to the house.

The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he

reached his grandfather the basket was again empty.

Out of breath, he said, "See Papa, it's useless!"

"So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket."

The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the

basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal

basket and was now clean, inside and out.

"Son, that's what happens when you read the Quraan. You might not

understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be

changed, inside and out. That is the work of Allah in our lives."

Do You Hate Someone??

Do you hate someone? Do you really hate someone? You haven't spoken to him for a while? You've been blaming him?

You're not the only one; the Muslim Ummah today is diseased with this to the extent that almost every Muslim knows another Muslim who he hates.

The Ummah is like a building with the Muslims as it's bricks, brotherhood is the cement. Without forgiveness you cannot have brotherhood.

OK then, he wronged you. He deceived you. He backbited you. He lied to you. But even in these extreme situations the Qur'an and the Hadith teach us that we have to forgive others (especially those who hurt us the most) if we wish to earn the forgiveness of Allah on the day of judgement. We have all committed many sins, made many mistakes and no doubt we have wronged others, we have deceived others, we have backbited others and no doubt we have lied to others.

So what makes us focus onto brothers' and sisters' errors while we remain unconscious of our own. Not to forgive is like to live in arrogance, and ignorance of our own shortcomings.

Forgiveness is linked with piety and God-consciousness, is there anybody who is not without sin? Is there anybody who can be arrogant enough to say that he does not need to forgive? Do we not know that Allah forgives those who forgive others? Therefore, we should realise the difficulties of others and forgive them. Allah says in the Qur'an:

"Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord, and pardon (all) men - for Allah loves those who do good."
[Surah ali Imran; 3:133-134]

And we know that Allah Himself is Ar-Rahmaan (the Most Compassionate) and Ar-Raheem (the Most Merciful) and that His Mercy is infinite, and that no matter the sin (except shirk) Allah is always willing to answer the person's call for forgiveness. In fact Allah loves the tear drop that falls from the eye of one who sincerely seeks the forgiveness of his Lord.

And Allah loves us to have hearts that are ready to forgive.

The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) once asked his companions;

"Do you know what will cause you to have high walled palaces in Paradise (as a symbol of great reward) and will cause you to be raised by God?" When they replied in the negative, he said,

"To be forgiving and to control yourself in the face of provocation, to give justice to the person who was unfair and unjust to you, to give to someone even though he did not give to you when you were in need and to keep connection with someone who may not have reciprocated your concern."

Similarly the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said that the best of people are those who are slow to get angry and quick to forgive. On the other hand the worst of people are those, he said who get angry quickly but are slow to forgive.

The characteristic that makes a person most likely to forgive is the purity of his or her heart. Apologies must be accepted, the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said that:

"Whoever apologises to his brother and that apology is not accepted, then the person who refuses to accept the apology bears the sin of one who takes the property of another unjustly. "

And the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) also said that:

"The doors of the Garden are open on Monday and Thursday. Every Muslim slave who does not associate anything with Allah is forgiven except for the man who has enmity between him and his brother. It is said, 'Leave those two until they have made a reconciliation. Leave those two until they have made a reconciliation.''

If we look at the example and the character of the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) we can see that he was always forgiving and never showed enmity to anyone except those who waged war against him. There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day, on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street, so he decided to go and see what was the matter. She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) came to see her and find out about her.

She accepted Islam.

This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow. Thumamah, as the chief of his tribe had killed many Muslims. On his travels, he was caught by the Muslim soldiers and was taken to the Prophet's masjid and tied to one of the pillars. The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) commanded his companions to untie him and give him the best food. The Messenger of God (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was indeed a mercy for the worlds.

We should similarly be merciful with each other. First of all, we ourselves should not do anything to upset our brothers and sisters (because this is in itself a part of mercy) and then we should forgive those who have upset us or made us angry. We will never be a strong ummah if we are not able to forgive.

Some might say that to forgive is a sign of weakness and humiliation, and for them it is better to be strong and preserve their honor. But honor in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness.

"But indeed if any shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs."
[surah 42:43]

If we are to be really strong then we have to be strong against Shaytaan and forgive our brothers and sisters, and in this way maybe Allah will decide insha-Allah to forgive ourselves for our many mistakes.

" ...honour in the eyes of Allah lies in forgiveness....."

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Nabi Muhammad s.a.w pernah bersabda:
"Orang yang memulakan salam adalah terlepas daripada sifat
sombong dan takabbur" (Riwayat Al-Baihaqi & Al-Khatib)

Wassalam

For your reading.........

The 90/10 Principle Author : Stephen Covey

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react..

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; can control how you react..

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react? You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in our relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what appended with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your a day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?


Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle; now do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.

There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life.

Petua dari Dr Fadzilah Kamsah

ini petua baguih diamalkan untuk membina keluarga bahagia..

Sumber didapati dari pengalaman rakan-rakan )

Petua Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah

Story Regarding Didik Anak

Assalammualaikum......masa saya kecik2 dulu, mak selalu sangat suruh saya habiskan belen2 nasik yg dia makan ... dan pagi2 sebelum gi sekolah, mak akan tuangkan air teh utk saya minum dlm cawan yg dia dah minum sebelum tu dan cam biasa, mesti ada sikit belen ... tapi taklah everytime ... secara puratanya seminggu sekali mesti ada mak suruh buat cam gitu .... dan sampailah saya dah besar panjang nie pon situasi ni still berjalan ... either belen makanan mak atau abah ... tapi kalo belen makanan anak2 memang jadi satu kepantangan bagi mak atau abah utk habiskan... kami kena habiskan sendiri atau akan dihabiskan oleh adik beradik yg lain ... samada kami perasan atau tidak ....


so satu hari tu tergerak nak tanya pasal isu ni kat mak ... akhirnya mak dedahkan bahawa memang purposely dia buat cam gitu sebab itu petua yg dia dapat dr arwah mak mentua dia sendiri ... arwah tok pompuan kami lah sebelah abah ... mak kata, supaya hati anak2 sentiasa melekat kat mak bapak... dan saya sendiri akui kesannya ... makin umur kita meningkat, hati kita senantiasa belas tengok mak bapak kita yg makin tua tu.. kalo kena marah ke kena tengking ke memang kami adik beradik diam membisu jer lah namanya nak menjawab balik memang tak dak w'pon kita tau yg kita betul dan mak pesan, dah ada anak sendiri esok .. jgn sekali2 makan lebihan makanan anak ... samalah ceritanya ... dan mak kata jugak, pagi2 jumaat masa dia bancuh air utk kami semua, dia akan selawat 3 x dan berdoa semoga kami selamat pergi dan selamat balik


...dan guru saya pesan, antara kesan terbesar bagi ibu bapa yg tidak menunaikan solat maghrib ialah, mereka2 ini akan Allah cabut rasa hormat anak terhadap mereka ... solat berjemaahlah dgn anak2 tiap kali waktu maghrib ... kalau ada lebih dr sorang anak, suruh sorang azan dan sorang qiam ... kemudian berganti2 bacakan doa lepas solat .... ini yg kami sekeluarga amalkan sampai sekarang ... saya personally memang cukup malu kalau tak sempat solat jamaah maghrib dgn mak abah secara pratiknya, inilah yg paling-paling paling berkesan sekali ... tak caya try buat ... solat jamaah dgn anak2 tiap kali maghrib ... dapat semua waktu lagi baik ... sangat besar 'rahsia' dan peranan dapur rupa2 nya .... dan jugak kesan solat jamaah walau hanya bagi waktu maghrib.


"Apabila kita kejar dunia, dunia akan lari; tetapi apabila kita kejar akhirat, dunia akan mengejar kita".


Just to ambil iktibar untuk mendidik diri & family. Usia dunia sudah Terlalu hampir ke penghujungnya, terlalu!


So, it's good if we can remind each other because in Rasulullah's lastsermon, baginda pun did mention that all those who listen to him (on shall pass on his words to others, and those to others again; and may the last ones understand his words better than those who listen to him directly...

Yang baik datang dari Allah & yg kurang itu is from my weaknesses.

Wallahualam.

Doa Sewaktu Sujud Dan Keistimewaannya

Sewaktu bersujud, kita berada amat hampir dengan Allah. Katakanlah apa sahaja di dalam hati hajat kita sebagaimana yang dilakukan oleh Rasulullah s. a. w. yang biasa memanjangkan sujudnya dengan memperbanyakkan zikir dan doa didalamnya.

Sabda Rasulullah s. a. w :- "Suasana yang paling hampir antara seseorang hamba dengan Tuhannya ialah di kala ia bersujud kerana itu hendaklah kamu memperbanyakkan doa di dalamnya."

Banyak doa yang diamalkan oleh Rasulullah untuk kita ikuti. Salah satunya yang paling baik untuk diamalkan ialah doa yang dibaca sewaktu sujud akhir dalam solat.

"Ya Allah, tambahkanlah bagiku rezeki yang banyak lagi halal, imam yang benar, ilmu yang bermanfaat, kesihatan yang elok, kecerdikan yang tinggi, hati yang bersih dan kejayaan yang besar."

Semoga dengan mengamalkan doa itu kita mendapat manfaat atau sekurang-kurangnya menjadi cita-cita kita dalam mencari keredhaan Allah dunia dan akhirat.

Banyak kelebihan memanjangkan sujud dan memperbanyakkan doa di dalamnya. Rasulullah s. a. w biasa berbuat begitu sehingga pernah para sahabat hairan kerana lamanya baginda bersujud.

Keistimewaan umatnya yang bersujud telah disebut oleh baginda dalam sabdanya yang bermaksud:-

"Tiadalah ada seorang umatku melainkan aku yang akan mengenalinya di hari kiamat"
Mendengar itu para sahabat bertanya: "Bagaimanakah engkau dapat mengenali mereka dalam khalayak ramai wahai Rasulullah?"

Jawab baginda: "Tidakkah engkau melihat seandainya sekumpulan unta dimasuki oleh seekor kuda yang amat hitam, sedang di dalamnya pula terdapat sekor kuda putih bersih, maka adakah engkau tidak dapat mengenalinya?"

Sahabat Menjawab: "Bahkan !" Rasulullah menyambung: "Kerana sesungguhnya pada hari itu (kiamat) muka umatku akan putih (berser-seri) disebabkan mereka bersujud (di dunia), segala anggota mereka ( terutama anggota wudu') putih berseri-seri oleh cahaya wudhu' !!!"

KEISTIMEWAANNYA
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Ahli neraka juga mendapat keselamatan kerana bekas sujudnya. Rasulullah s. a. w. bersabda yang bermaksud:-

"Apabila Allah hendak melimpahkan Rahmat (kebaikan) kepada ahli-ahli neraka yang Dia kehendaki, Dia pun memerintahkan malaikat supaya mengeluarkan orang-orang yang menyembah Allah, lalu mereka dikeluarkan dan mereka dikenali dengan kesan-kesan sujud (di dahi mereka), di mana Allah menegah neraka memakan (menghapuskan) bekas-bekas sujud itu, lalu mereka pun keluar dari neraka, maka setiap tubuh anak Adam akan dimakan api neraka selain bekas sujud"

Begitulah Allah memuliakan hamba-Nya yang bersujud. Orang yang sujud mendapat keistimewaannya apatah lagi di dalam sujud itu kita berdoa. Sudah tentu mendapat perhatian yang sewajarnya. Semoga kita akan menjadi hamba yang benar-benar mendapat rahmat.
Wassalam.

Alif Lam Lam Ha..

For our info..

Vander Hoven, a psychologist from Netherlands, announced his new discovery about the effect of reading the Quran and repeating the word ALLAH both on patients and on normal persons.

The Dutch professor confirms his discovery with studies and research applied on many patients over a period of three years. Some of his patients were non-Muslims, others do not speak Arabic and were trained to pronounce the word "ALLAH" clearly; the result was great, particularly on those who suffer from dejection and tension. Al Watan, a Saudi daily reported that the psychologist was quoted to say that Muslims who can read Arabic and who read the Quran regularly could protect themselves from psychological diseases.

The psychologist explained how each letter in the word "ALLAH" affects healing of psychological diseases. He pointed out in his research that pronouncing the first letter in the word "ALLAH" which is the letter (A), released from the respiratory system, controls breathing. He added that pronouncing the velar consonant (L) in the Arabic way, with the tongue touching slightly the upper part of the jaw producing a short pause and then repeating the same pause constantly, relaxes the aspiration. Also, pronouncing the last letter which is the letter (H) makes a contact between the lungs and the heart and in turn this contact controls the heartbeat.

What is exciting in the study is that this psychologist is a non-Muslim, but interested in Islamic sciences and searching for the secrets of the Holy Quran. Allah, The Great and Glorious, says, We will show them Our signs in the universe and in their own selves, until it becomes manifest to (remember me in ur Dua) ALLAHU AKBAR (Allah is great).

During the next 60 seconds, stop whatever you are doing, and take this opportunity to share this information with everyone yo know on your contact list...

May Allah bless you... Amin... Insya - Allah...

Sejarah Ayat Kursi

Untuk dikongsi bersama..

ﻪﺗﺎﻛﺮﺑﻭﷲﺍﺔﻤﺣﺭﻭﻢﻜﻴﻠﻋﻡﻼﺴﻟﺍ & Salam Sejahtera.

Ayat ini diturunkan setelah hijrah. Semasa penurunannya ia telah diiringi oleh beribu-ribu malaikat kerana kehebatan dan kemuliaannya. Syaitan dan iblis juga menjadi gempar kerana adanya satu perintang dalam perjuangan mereka. Rasullah s. a. w. dengan segera memerintahkan Zaid b Tsabit menulis serta menyebarkannya.

Sesiapa yang membaca ayat Kursi dengan khusyuk setiap kali selepas sembahyang fardhu, setiap pagi dan petang, setiap kali keluar masuk rumah atau hendak musafir, InsyaAllah akan terpeliharalah dirinya dari godaan syaitan, kejahatan manusia, binatang buas yang akan memudaratkan dirinya bahkan keluarga, anak-anak, harta bendanya juga akan terpelihara dengan izin Allah s. w. t.

Mengikut keterangan dari kitab"Asraarul Mufidah" sesiapa mengamalkan membacanya setiap hari sebanyak 18 kali maka akan dibukakan dadanya dengan berbagai hikmah, dimurahkan rezekinya, dinaikkan darjatnya dan diberikannya pengaruh sehingga semua orang akan menghormatinya serta terpelihara ia dari segala bencana dengan izin Allah.

Syeikh Abu Abbas ada menerangkan, siapa yang membacanya sebanyak 50 kali lalu ditiupkannya pada air hujan kemudian diminumnya, InsyaAllah Allah akan mencerdaskan akal fikirannya serta memudahkannya menerima ilmu pengetahuan.

Untuk amalan kita semua..... Fadhilat Ayat Al-Kursi mengikut Hadis-Hadis Rasullullah s. a. w. bersabda bermaksud:
"Sesiapa pulang ke rumahnya serta membaca ayat Kursi, Allah hilangkan segala kefakiran di depan matanya.

Sabda baginda lagi;
"Umatku yang membaca ayat Kursi 12 kali pada pagi Jumaat, kemudian berwuduk dan sembahyang sunat dua rakaat, Allah memeliharanya daripada kejahatan syaitan dan kejahatan pembesar."

Orang yang selalu membaca ayat Kursi dicintai dan dipelihara Allah sebagaimana DIA memelihara Nabi Muhammad. Mereka yang beramal dengan bacaan ayat Kursi akan mendapat pertolongan serta perlindungan Allah daripada gangguan serta hasutan syaitan.

Pengamal ayat Kursi juga, dengan izin Allah, akan terhindar daripada pencerobohan pencuri. Ayat Kursi menjadi benteng yang kuat menyekat pencuri daripada memasuki rumah.

Mengamalkan bacaan ayat Kursi juga akan memberikan keselamatan ketika dalam perjalanannya. Ayat Kursi yang dibaca dengan penuh khusyuk, Insya-Allah, boleh menyebabkan syaitan dan jin terbakar.

Jika anda berpindah ke rumah baru maka pada malam pertama anda menduduki rumah itu eloklah anda membaca ayat Kursi 100 kali, insya-Allah mudah-mudahan anda sekeluarga terhindar daripada gangguan lahir dan batin.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi apabila berbaring di tempat tidurnya, Allah mewakilkan 2 orang Malaikat memeliharanya hingga subuh.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir setiap sembahyang Fardhu, ia akan berada dalam lindungan Allah hingga sembahyang yang lain.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir tiap sembahyang, tidak menegah akan dia daripada masuk syurga kecuali maut, dan barang siapa membacanya ketika hendak tidur, Allah memelihara akan dia ke atas rumahnya, rumah jirannya & ahli rumah2 di sekitarnya.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi diakhir tiap-tiap sembahyang Fardhu, Allah menganugerahkan dia hati-hati orang yang bersyukur perbuatan2 orang yang benar, pahala nabi2 juga Allah melimpahkan padanya rahmat.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi sebelum keluar rumahnya, maka Allah mengutuskan 70,000 Malaikat kepadanya, mereka semua memohon keampunan dan mendoakan baginya.

Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir sembahyang Allah azza wajalla akan mengendalikan pengambilan rohnya dan ia adalah seperti orang yang berperang bersama nabi Allah sehingga mati syahid.

Barang siapa yang membaca ayat al-Kursi ketika dalam kesempitan nescaya Allah berkenan memberi pertolongan kepadanya Dari Abdullah bin 'Amr r. a. ,


Rasullullah s. a. w. bersabda, " SAMPAIKANLAH PESANKU BIARPUN SATU AYAT"

Cinta...... Abadi

Utk Renungan Bersama.

Mungkin kita terlupa dgn artikel ini. Detik-detik Rasulullah SAW Menghadapi Sakaratul Maut. Ada sebuah kisah tentang cinta yang sebenar-benar cinta yang dicontohkan Allah melalui kehidupan Rasul-Nya.

Pagi itu, walaupun langit telah mulai menguning, burung-burung gurun enggan mengepakkan sayap. Pagi itu, Rasulullah dengan suara terbatas memberikan kutbah, "Wahai umatku, kita semua ada dalam kekuasaan Allah dan cinta kasih-Nya. Maka taati dan bertakwalah kepada-Nya. Ku wariskan dua perkara pada kalian, Al-Qur'an dan sunnahku. Barang siapa mencintai sunnahku, bererti mencintai aku dan kelak orang-orang yang mencintaiku, akan masuk syurga bersama-sama aku." Khutbah singkat itu diakhiri dengan pandangan mata Rasulullah yang tenang dan penuh minat menatap sahabatnya satu persatu.

Abu Bakar menatap mata itu dengan berkaca-kaca, Umar adanya naik turun menahan nafas dan tangisnya. Usman menghela nafas panjang dan Ali menundukkan kepalanya dalam-dalam. Isyarat itu telah datang, saatnya sudah tiba. "Rasulullah akan meninggalkan kita semua," keluh hati semua sahabat kala itu. Manusia tercinta itu, hampir selesai menunaikan tugasnya di dunia. Tanda-tanda itu semakin kuat, tatkala Ali dan Fadhal dengan cergas menangkap Rasulullah yang berkeadaan lemah dan goyah ketika turun dari mimbar. Disaat itu, kalau mampu, seluruh sahabat yang hadir di sana pasti akan menahan detik-detik berlalu.

Matahari kian tinggi, tapi pintu rumah Rasulullah masih tertutup. Sedang di dalamnya, Rasulullah sedang terbaring lemah dengan keningnya yang berkeringat dan membasahi pelepah kurma yang menjadi alas tidurnya. Tiba-tiba dari luar pintu terdengar seorang yang berseru mengucapkan salam. "Bolehkah saya masuk?" tanyanya. Tapi Fatimah tidak mengizinkannya masuk, "Maafkanlah, ayahku sedang demam," kata Fatimah yang membalikkan badan dan menutup pintu. Kemudian ia kembali menemani ayahnya yang ternyata sudah membuka mata dan bertanya pada Fatimah, "Siapakah itu wahai anakku?" "Tak tahulah ayahku, orang sepertinya baru sekali ini aku melihatnya," tutur Fatimah lembut. Lalu, Rasulullah menatap puterinya itu dengan pandangan yang menggetarkan. Seolah-olah bahagian demi bahagian wajah anaknya itu hendak dikenang. "Ketahuilah, dialah yang menghapuskan kenikmatan sementara, dialah yang memisahkan pertemuan di dunia. Dialah malakul maut," kata Rasulullah, Fatimah pun menahan ledakkan tangisnya.

Malaikat maut datang menghampiri, tapi Rasulullah menanyakan kenapa Jibril tidak ikut sama menyertainya. Kemudian dipanggilah Jibril yang sebelumnya sudah bersiap di atas langit dunia menyambut ruh kekasih Allah dan penghulu dunia ini. "Jibril, jelaskan apa hakku nanti di hadapan Allah?" Tanya Rasululllah dengan suara yang amat lemah. "Pintu-pintu langit telah terbuka, para malaikat telah menanti ruhmu. Semua syurga terbuka lebar menanti kedatanganmu," kata Jibril. Tapi itu ternyata tidak membuatkan Rasulullah lega, matanya masih penuh kecemasan. "Engkau tidak senang mendengar khabar ini?" Tanya Jibril lagi. "Khabarkan kepadaku bagaimana nasib umatku kelak?" "Jangan khawatir, wahai Rasul Allah, aku pernah mendengar Allah berfirman kepadaku: 'Ku haramkan syurga bagi siapa saja, kecuali umat Muhammad telah berada di dalamnya," kata Jibril.

Detik-detik semakin dekat, saatnya Izrail melakukan tugas. Perlahan ruh Rasulullah ditarik. Nampak seluruh tubuh Rasulullah bersimbah peluh, urat-urat lehernya menegang. "Jibril, betapa sakit sakaratul maut ini." Perlahan Rasulullah mengaduh. Fatimah terpejam, Ali yang disampingnya menunduk semakin dalam dan Jibril memalingkan muka. "Jijikkah kau melihatku, hingga kau palingkan wajahmu Jibril?" Tanya Rasulullah pada Malaikat pengantar wahyu itu. "Siapakah yang sanggup, melihat kekasih Allah direnggut ajal," kata Jibril. Sebentar kemudian terdengar Rasulullah memekik, kerana sakit yang tidak tertahankan lagi. "Ya Allah, dahsyat nian maut ini, timpakan saja semua siksa maut ini kepadaku, jangan pada umatku. "Badan Rasulullah mulai dingin, kaki dan dadanya sudah tidak bergerak lagi. Bibirnya bergetar seakan hendak membisikkan sesuatu, Ali segera mendekatkan telinganya "Uushiikum bis shalati, wa maa malakat aimanuku", peliharalah shalat dan peliharalah orang-orang lemah di antaramu." Di luar pintu tangis mulai terdengar bersahutan, sahabat saling berpelukan. Fatimah menutupkan tangan di wajahnya, dan Ali kembali mendekatkan telinganya ke bibir Rasulullah yang mulai kebiruan."Ummatii, ummatii, ummatiii?" - "Umatku, umatku, umatku" Dan berakhirlah hidup manusia mulia yang memberi sinaran itu. Kini, mampukah kita mencintai sepertinya? Allahumma sholli 'ala Muhammad wa baarik wa salim 'alaihi. Betapa cintanya Rasulullah kepada kita.

Kirimkan kepada sahabat-sahabat muslim lainnya agar timbul kesedaran untuk mencintai Allah dan RasulNya, seperti Allah dan Rasulnya mencintai kita. Kerana sesungguhnya selain daripada itu hanyalah fana belaka. Amin....

Berkenaan Dengan Endometriosis

Biasanya kita manusia tidak akan mengambil tahu dengan mendalam akan sesuatu perkara, melainkan jika ianya terkena pada diri sendiri. Begitu lah yang terjadi pada diri aku. Setelah mendapat tahu ada sesuatu yang tak kena pada diri aku, baru lah aku mengelabah.

Sememangnya aku akan mengalami sengugut pada tiap-tiap bulan, tapi aku sangkakan ianya adalah normal kerana ia dialami oleh kebanyakan wanita. Tapi aku tidak begitu bernasib baik bila sengugut ku itu bukan normal, tapi sebenarnya penyakit yang dinamakan “endometriosis”.

Kesan dari “endometriosis”, ia menyebabkan rahim disebelah kananku diselaputi “choclate cyst” sebesar 8 cm, agak besar juga tu. Menurut Doktor Idris, dia terpaksa “repair” rahim di sebelah kananku yang ditumbuhi “cyst”, manakala tiub fallopianku disebelah kiri tersumbat dan membengkak juga terpaksa dibetulkan.

Selepas menjalani pembedahan, aku harus mengambil ubat danazol, selama tiga bulan. Rawatan dengan mengambil ubat hormon ini, dijangka dapat mengurangkan penyakit ini. Selepas rawatan ini, aku disarankan supaya mengandung secepat mungkin. Kerana penyakit ini, mungkin akan berulang, selagi darah haid aku ada. Aku selalu berdoa di setiap kali solat, semoga aku dikurniakan zuriat secepat mungkin. Semoga Allah memakbulkan doaku ini.. InsyaAllah.. sesungguhnya Dia maha Pemurah lagi maha Penyayang.

Betapa seksanya aku untuk untuk bergerak selepas pembedahan. Aku ditempatkan di wad selama seminggu dan diberi cuti sakit selama sebulan. Selama aku berpantang, banyak juga bahan bacaan berkenaan dengan penyakit ini aku baca. Bak pepatah melayu, Dah terantuk baru nak tergadah. Di sini aku nak kongsikan pengetahuan berkenaan dengan penyakit endometrosis nie.

What is endometriosis?

Endometriosis is a condition where the tissue that normally lines the uterus (endometrial tissue) occurs in other parts of the body. Stray endometrial tissue is often referred to as endometrial implants. Endometrial implants are most commonly found on the surface of the ovary, the ligaments that support the uterus and in the Pouch of Douglas (a small area between the uterus and rectum). Other areas include the surface of the uterus, fallopian tubes, bowel (eg. colon), cervix, vagina, vulva, ureters (the tubes connecting kidney to the bladder) and bladder. In some rare instances, endometrial implants have been found in areas of the body such as lungs, arms, legs, nose and other distant locations.

Studies suggest between 5 -10% of premenopausal women have the condition, with higher rates in infertile women.

What problems do endometrial implants cause?

Endometrial tissue which grows outside the uterus responds to hormones in the same way as the tissue which lines the uterus. That is, during every menstrual cycle the endometrial tissue thickens in readiness for ovulation and pregnancy and if pregnancy does not occur, the tissue breaks down causing bleeding. However, unlike the blood from the endometrial tissue lining the uterus, the blood from endometrial implants cannot escape the body. The trapped menstrual blood causes irritation and inflammation to the surrounding tissues and organs .

The body responds by trying to surround the ‘problem’ area with scar tissue to protect the rest of the body. The formation of scar tissue (adhesions) can result in the pelvic structures becoming stuck together, unable to move freely. Consequently, any movement such as that occurring in ovulation, sexual intercourse or emptying of the bowel can be painful. Over time, the endometrial tissue may also enlarge and form cysts, particularly in the ovaries. These cysts are often referred to as ‘chocolate cysts’ because they are filled with old blood which is chocolate-like in colour.

Symptoms

The symptoms of endometriosis vary widely from woman to woman. The severity of symptoms is not necessarily related to the severity of the endometriosis. For instance, a woman with extensive endometriosis may have few symptoms or none at all, while a woman with minimal endometriosis may have severe symptoms. Symptoms often depend on the location and depth of the endometrial implants. While women typically experience symptoms at the time of their period, if adhesions are present the symptoms may also occur at other times and can continue after menopause.
Women with endometriosis may not recognise they have the condition, believing their symptoms to be normal period pain and something “they just have to put up with”.

Symptoms include:
*Period pain (dysmenorrhoea)
*Pain during sexual intercourse (dyspareunia)
*Pelvic and abdominal pain outside of menstruation
*Abnormal bleeding- including heavy bleeding, clotting, prolonged bleeding, irregular bleeding, premenstrual spotting
*Bowel disturbances - including painful bowel motions, diarrhoea, constipation, bleeding from the bowel
*Difficulty in getting pregnant
*Painful urination
*Lower back, thigh and/or leg pain
*Premenstrual syndrome
The anticipation of pain or discomfort, recurrence of symptoms following treatment and fertility problems can lead to feelings of depression, anxiety, anger and hopelessness and stress. It is important to acknowledge the mental and emotional symptoms that can be associated with having this condition.

Causes

The exact cause of endometriosis has not been established but a number of theories exist within the medical community. The most accepted theory is that of 'retrograde menstruation.' This theory proposes that during menstruation some blood moves in the wrong direction up along the fallopian tubes and into the pelvis (instead of down through the cervix and out the vagina) where it releases endometrial tissue fragments. These tissue fragments then implant and grow on the ovaries, fallopian tubes and the back of the pelvis. The retrograde menstruation theory is supported by the fact that endometrial implants are most commonly found in these areas. It appears, however, that the majority of women do have some degree of retrograde menstruation and yet not all develop endometriosis. It is, therefore, suggested that other factors such as a lowered immune response may also play a role.

Other theories suggest stray endometrial cells occur during the formation of the foetus or are spread through the body via the blood or lymphatic system or through gynaecological surgery. Research is also examining whether there is a genetic component.

Risk factors

Women can be affected by endometriosis from as early as adolescence. There are a number of factors that appear to increase the chances of developing endometriosis, including:

Menstrual pattern- The frequency, length and heaviness of menstrual periods influence a woman’s endometriosis risk. An early onset of menarche (first period), short cycle length (under 28 days), long duration of flow (more than seven days), regular periods and heavy periods are all associated with an increased risk.
Family history - Women who have a family member who has been diagnosed with endometriosis have a higher risk of acquiring the condition. Similarly, women with a family history of the condition are more likely to have severe endometriosis.

Reproductive history - As pregnancy and lactation reduce the number of menstrual periods (and the opportunities for retrograde menstruation) having no or few children increases a woman’s risk of endometriosis.

Immune factors - It appears that women who suffer from endometriosis also experience a higher incidence of autoimmune conditions like chronic fatigue, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, allergies and asthma.
Obstruction in outflow of menstrual blood -An obstruction (due to factors like congenital abnormalities, narrow cervix, etc) is thought to increase the likelihood of retrograde menstruation and, therefore, endometriosis.

Environmental toxins - Animal studies have suggested that environmental toxins like the chemical by-product dioxin may increase the risk of endometriosis. Dioxin may contribute to the development of endometriosis by mimicking the female hormone oestrogen and/or by compromising the immune system.

Diagnosis

Endometriosis can be difficult to diagnose as the symptoms may initially be attributed to other health problems like pelvic inflammatory disease, fibroids, kidney stones, stomach ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome and cystitis. As a result, women can experience significant delays between the time they report symptoms and the time they receive a diagnosis of endometriosis. Delays in diagnosis can leave women feeling frustrated, angry or depressed. Conversely, as it is known that some women with endometrial implants are asymptomatic there is the risk that a woman experiencing pain may be diagnosed with endometriosis on the presence of endometrial implants when, in fact, her symptoms are related to another condition.

A doctor may be able to detect signs of endometriosis during a pelvic examination. Tenderness in the pelvic region, a uterus that appears fixed and immobile (due to adhesions) and enlarged ovaries (from chocolate cysts) may all indicate the presence of endometriosis. If enlarged ovaries or a mass in the pelvis is detected, a vaginal ultrasound (which uses a probe inserted into the vagina) may be performed.

The only way to definitively diagnose endometriosis, however, is through laparoscopy. Laparoscopy is a surgical procedure which involves inserting a long, thin telescope (laparoscope) into the abdomen through an incision near the navel. Gas is then pumped into the abdomen to separate the organs for better visualisation. The surgeon will look for signs of endometriosis and may take tissue samples for testing. A person’s endometriosis will be classified from mild to severe (stage I-IV) according to the location, amount, depth and size of the endometrial implants. Endometrial implants may also be removed at this time (see surgical treatment section).

Treatment options

Treatment for endometriosis depends on a number of factors including the severity of symptoms, the extent of the endometriosis, the woman’s age and the outcome she wishes to achieve (ie. pain reduction, improved fertility). There is no definitive cure for endometriosis but a combination of regular medical follow-up, drug treatment, surgery, diet and exercise and complementary therapies can help control the condition.

One of the common misconceptions concerning endometriosis is that having a baby will cure the condition. While endometriosis is generally suppressed during pregnancy, 50-60 percent of women will experience a recurrence within five years, with some women’s symptoms returning as soon as their periods resume. Some women actually experience a worsening of symptoms in the first few months of pregnancy.

Drug treatment

Drugs used for endometriosis can be divided into those simply providing pain relief and hormonal treatments. As endometrial implants are found to regress during pregnancy and menopause the majority of hormonal treatments are designed to mimic the woman’s hormonal state at these times. It is important to note that while drug treatments can shrink endometrial implants they have no effect on adhesions and do not improve fertility.

The possible risks, benefits and side effects should be discussed with a doctor at length before commencing treatment. Endometriosis can recur following drug therapy with the recurrence rate higher in women with a more severe condition. A number of other drug treatments are currently being trialled for the treatment of endometriosis.

Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) - These drugs block the production of prostaglandins in the body. Prostaglandins have a number of functions, including making the uterus contract during menstruation to help with the shedding of the endometrium. These contractions can cause pain. It is thought that women with endometriosis may produce more prostaglandins than women without the condition. NSAIDs only work effectively if they are taken before the body produces prostaglandins and so it is best to start taking them the day before a period is expected. Women may need to try different formulations before they find one that is effective for them. Common side effects of NSAIDs include nausea, vomiting, diarrhoea, stomach upsets and stomach ulcers. These can be reduced by taking the drugs with food or milk.

Combined oral contraceptive pill - The combined oral contraceptive pill contains a combination of the hormones oestrogen and progestogen. Oral contraceptives may be useful for women with milder symptoms, particularly adolescents and women who do not wish to take the other drugs available. In the treatment of endometriosis oral contraceptives are sometimes given continuously for several months (skipping the sugar pills). Taking oral contraceptives continuously eliminates the withdrawal bleed and, therefore, the incidence of period related pain. It also reduces the amount of blood and the possibility of further endometrial implants occurring by retrograde menstruation. Common side effects of the combined oral contraceptive pill include fluid retention, nausea, breast tenderness, headaches, vaginal discharge and decreased sexual drive.

Progestogens - Progestogens act as anti-oestrogens, inhibiting the growth of endometrial implants. Progestogens are available as tablets, injections, an intra-uterine system (Mirena) or an implant (Implanon). Side effects differ for each delivery methods but may include weight gain, fluid retention, nausea, breakthrough bleeding, depression and fatigue (less likely with the intra-uterine system).

GnRH agonists - These drugs are a modified version of Gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH), which is a naturally occurring hormone. GnRH agonists work by stopping the ovaries producing the female hormones oestrogen and progesterone, inducing an artificial menopause. The lack of oestrogen causes the endometrial implants to degenerate. GnRH agonists are administered by injection or nasal spray.

Side effects of GnRH agonists include menopause-related symptoms and a reduction in bone density. Although this latter side effect is largely reversible after ceasing medication, treatment with GnRH agonists is generally limited to a six month course to minimise the risk. “Add back” therapy, adding back low doses of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can be used to overcome some of the side effects. GnRH agonists should not be taken during pregnancy or breastfeeding.

Danazol and Dimetriose - Danazol is a mild anabolic steroid that contains a weak form of testosterone, the male hormone. It creates a menopause-like state. Most of the women who take Danazol stop having a menstrual period and many experience other side effects. Side effects include those related to a drop in oestrogen (vaginal dryness, hot flushes and night sweats) and those related to an increase in testosterone (weight gain, decrease in breast size, acne or oily skin, increase in facial and body hair and voice changes). Muscle cramps, headaches, irritability, depression, decreased libido and increased cholesterol can also occur.
Dimetriose is a steroid which results in a menopause-like state. The side effects are similar to Danazol, although Dimetriose is reported to have fewer masculinising side effects. Both Danazol and Dimetriose should not be taken during pregnancy or breastfeeding.

Surgical treatment

Surgical treatment of endometriosis provides relief from symptoms for a significant percentage of women but, as with drug treatments, symptoms can recur in time. Unlike drug treatments, surgical treatment may improve women’s fertility.

The surgical removal of endometrial implants and adhesions can often be carried out at the time of the diagnostic laparoscopy. Accessible endometrial implants and adhesions are removed using a range of different instruments. Like with any surgical procedure, there are risks associated with the use of anaesthetics. The most common side effect experienced by women following laparoscopic surgery is pain and discomfort in the abdomen and/or shoulder due to residual carbon dioxide gas.

Other side effects may include the development of adhesions and, rarely, damage to pelvic structures. In addition, there is the possibility that not all the endometriosis was visualised and, therefore, some still remains. Most women will be able to go home the same day they have the operation. They will generally take between 5-7 days to feel better and will be able to return to work sometime in the second week.

If a woman has extensive endometriosis, adhesions or other circumstances which make using a laparoscope difficult, a laparotomy may be recommended as it provides greater access than a laparoscopy. A laparotomy is a major surgical procedure involving an incision in the abdominal wall. This procedure carries with it greater risks and a longer anaesthetic. A laparotomy will require 3-5 days in hospital and 3-5 weeks to fully recover.

If a woman’s symptoms persist despite drug and conservative surgical treatment a hysterectomy may be suggested (see the Centre’s factsheet on hysterectomy for further details). This type of surgery is usually only chosen as a last resort and in cases where all other forms of treatment have failed. If the ovaries are unaffected by endometriosis they may be retained to avoid a surgically induced menopause. However, studies show that women who keep one or both of their ovaries often experience a recurrence of symptoms with some requiring further surgery. Women should discuss the pros and cons of keeping their ovaries at hysterectomy with their doctor.

If women have both ovaries removed at hysterectomy they are often prescribed hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to relieve menopausal symptoms. However, as HRT contains oestrogen there is a concern that it will lead to a persistence or recurrence of endometriosis. It is often recommended that women are not given HRT until several months after surgery to ensure that any remaining endometrial implants have time to completely regress.

Diet and exercise

A healthy diet and regular exercise help to maintain physical and emotional well being. Women with endometriosis are encouraged to eat more fresh, unprocessed foods like fruit, vegetables, grains, legumes, nuts and seeds, while reducing the consumption of salt, sugar, fat, caffeine and alcohol (13). A well balanced diet plays an important role in assisting recovery following surgery as well as combating the side effects of drug treatments. The many benefits of regular exercise include more stable hormonal levels and stress and pain reduction.

Complementary therapies While there is limited scientific evidence supporting the use of such therapies for endometriosis, many women report finding complementary therapies helpful. There are a number of therapies available but those used most commonly in the treatment of endometriosis are herbal medicine, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), aromatherapy, homeopathy, massage, yoga and meditation. Complementary therapies can assist in balancing hormone levels, relieving pain and reducing feelings of stress and depression often associated with the condition.

Women interested in using complementary therapies should consult a qualified practitioner who can properly advise them on a course of treatment. It is also important that women disclose their use of any complementary therapies to their doctor, particularly if they are also undergoing medical treatment for endometriosis.

Emotional support

In addition to the drug, surgical and complementary therapies available, women may find the services of a professional counsellor experienced in working with endometriosis helpful. They can help women address some of the issues associated with an endometriosis diagnosis. Similarly, women may consider joining a support group. Support groups can provide women and their families with information on endometriosis, coping strategies as well as contact with other people who are experiencing similar problems. Being able to talk to others also affected by endometriosis can reduce feelings of isolation.